yesterday 2 guys that r very good friends w/my boyfriend told me he was only w/me cus of my looks and i confronted him and he denied it and 2 b honest i don't know wut to believe..wut do guys think i should do!
2007-08-15 08:42:24 · 16 answers · asked by GORGEOUS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should know the answer on your own
do you feel he is only with you for your looks or is he in the relationship for other reasons
why don't you pray about it
good luck girl
2007-08-15 08:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Becky T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are playing the "cups" game. In tarot the suit of cups is the story of gal who's friends plant ideas in her head about her most loved. She takes there advise, confronts him, and winds up ruining the realationship. Now, if you have issuses being a "trophy" GF, then walk away from it. But understand, though I do not know your age, I DO know that all men, whether they'll admit it or not, go for looks first. This is always a plus for you. Now, if this is something that bothers you try this; dress down and not appealing. Perhaps this way you'll see what it is that really attracts him to you, Your looks or your person.
2007-08-15 15:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, believe his two friends; it is much more likely he is lying to you about what he said to them, than lying to them about how he feels about you, and why he is going out with you. Then act accordingly. It may be that you are O.K. with that, and just want to have him as a boyfriend no matter WHAT his agenda is. Just know, that eventually, he is going to dump you and move on to the next gal he can get that he thinks is even prettier than you. (Of course you love him, and WANT to believe that he is with you for more than your looks, and would NEVER lie to you about something as important as this; but guess what: some guys are like that, and it looks as if you found one!)
If he does not love you for who you are, and just for what you look like--and what that does for his ego, it is just a matter of time before it is over. That leaves you with two choices: you can get hurt now, and dump HIM, or you can get hurt later, and wait until he is ready to toss you out with the trash, because he has found something that looks better. In other words, you can let him control the timing of the end of this relationship, or YOU can pick the time, place & method.
Good luck!!
2007-08-15 16:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by grapejuice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he ever given you any reason to think any of these accusations are true? if so then you need to weigh it with the concept that most guys want their girl to be attractive, and that's really no crime. to be on the safe side though you could ask him to explain how he feels about you. Look him in the eye and pay attention to his gestures, you'll know if he's lying. ask in a subtle way though so he feels that there is no pressure, wait a few days when he forgets that you confronted him.
all the best
2007-08-15 15:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like they could be lying so could your man. You have to decide what is so special about you that he wants to be with you. Is it your personality or is it the fact that you are a trophy girlfriend. Better yet, how does he treat you when you are in public and when you are alone? Look at all the factors. I hope it all works out for you but if it is true about what his friends said then you know you deserve better.
2007-08-15 15:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you feel the relationship is headed? If you feel that there is nothing there but physical attraction then get away from him. Cause he is going to break your heart if you change your looks. He really doesn't sound worth the aggravation!!!!!!!
2007-08-15 15:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, if it is true does it bother you?
second, do these 2 guys get anything out of it? cuz if they want to date you maybe it isn't true but they want you free.
and he is your boyfriend! do what you want!
now if you were gonna marry him or have kids... then make sure you are together for more than looks and a good time.
if you like him, he likes you, you have fun together.. maybe that is enough.
2007-08-15 15:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by insisfun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you fell into that. How does your boyfriend treat you does he make you happy and if he does the hell with people say. Ask yourself why is it that they have enough time to be all up in to your business.
2007-08-15 15:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by craving cash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any reason not to believe your bf ? Has he lied to you before? Are his friends just mad at him and wanting to cause trouble? How well do you believe his friends ? Do you really think that he would do that?
Good luck...Beautiful.
2007-08-15 19:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by white_and_nerdy_93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's 2 against one if his friends both said it's so I bet they are telling you the truth.
2007-08-15 15:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Emily R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋