Anytime my fiancee (her father) and I hug or snuggle or kiss or hold hands...any sort of affection between us...she gets jealous and upset. She will come over and try to get in between us or try to move his hand off of me. She always says "that's my mommy" when she does it as well. She will even start to whine and cry if she can't stop him from touching me. And to make matters worse, she has a baby sister on the way, due in Nov. so if she acts like this now am I to assume it will get worse when all my attention has to go to the new baby? Has anyone else encountered this behavior from their toddler?
2007-08-15 08:36:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I swear my child has a radar that goes off every time we try to sneak in some together time, whether it is a quick kiss or snuggle. However, I guess we are lucky as he just wants in on the action.
You need to tell her that it is okay and that you like it. Then give her a quick snuggle and a kiss and send her on her way. As if she starts to whine and cry. My mom taught me to say when you are done crying I will give you a hug, but you have to stop crying first, and be willing to ignore them. If you give in during the tantrum then you are only reinforcing the lesson that persistence pays.
As for the new one arriving, it is never to early to start preparing your little one. If she is old enough give her a chore to be involved, like handing you the new diaper or picking out an outfit for the day from one of two options. Get a doll and have her practice holding baby gently.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-15 08:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by bluefroggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 yr old son does that all the time. And now my two year old is starting to do it. I think she is more jealous though cause when I hold someone elses baby she gets really mad. Just try telling your daughter that you love her but that you love her daddy just as much and try including her in a group hug so that she doesn't feel left out. Start talking to her now about what it is going to be like when the new baby comes along. And let her participate as much as you can with the new baby that way she won't feel like the baby took her place. Make sure to make time everyday to do something with her. Have your fiance take care of the baby for about an hour so that you can take your daughter outside or to the park or just to read a book alone with her. It will make her feel special and loved!
2007-08-15 19:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by hazeleyes1279 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a mom, but I believe this is entirely normal. Don't give in to her whining, but don't brush her off either. Include her in the snuggle, and encourage Daddy to cuddle her too, so she doesn't feel left out. If she happens to catch you at an inopportune moment that would be inappropriate for her to join, tell her it's your special time with Daddy, but you will have a "special time" with her later at the playground or the zoo. As for the baby, I'm concerned that you think "all" your attention will go to the baby. Although, of course, the baby will need extra attention, you and Daddy will both need to set aside special time for your first child, both separately and together, leaving the new baby with Grandma occasionally. Good luck, and just keep at it. And congrats on the new baby!
2007-08-15 15:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did this after my husband returned from Iraq after a year. He was 9 months old when he left and 21 months old when he returned. He's now 2 1/2 and it doesn't phase him at all when we are affectionate with each other. Now, if another child wants my attention then he gets very upset and tells them, "my mama". I'm hoping this is just a phase, too, that he will outgrow; I'm expecting baby #2 in February.
It depends on her age but try to explain to her that you love her and you love daddy. Good luck!
2007-08-15 16:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are like that to. My son who is four is a daddys boy, and if any one touches daddy hes right there wanting the attention. My two year old is mommys suck same thing
2007-08-15 17:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by yula d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter does the same thing! She's 19 months and I'm usually the one who takes her bath's and puts her to sleep so maybe because we have that bonding experience she feels closer to me than her father, He shows her plenty of affection though so that's where I was puzzled, If I'm laying down and he lays besides me she'll squeeze her way right between us, to me its flattering but to her father is hurtful, Its nice to know my daughter isn't the only child doing this so it must be a phase,
Good Luck
2007-08-15 16:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Bella▒ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did this as well. She'll get over it. Just tell her that you love her and nowbody will get in the way of that, but you lover her daddy too. Also, invite her over when you're doing it and you see her looking and make it a family hug and kiss.
2007-08-15 15:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My twins did this. They are at home with their mom all day, so when I would get home and be all over her they'd get upset. When one of them was about two he even smacked me in the leg and said, "MY mommy!" Kind of funny. They are mostly over that now. It's just a stage.
2007-08-15 16:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ha ha ha, finally i'm not alone! my 16 month old daughter is the exact same way she even will go up and punch her father (my husband) in the leg if she see's him kissing me. she totally freaks right out if she see's us being affectionate its weird how kids react.
2007-08-15 15:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋