I have a wonderful boyfriend and I love him very much (our plan is to get married in a year to two years). We have a great sex life, but he's too rough with me during foreplay. He bites too hard on my breasts and upper chest area before we have sex. It leaves bruises and teeth marks- not just normal hickies, but actual bruises. It hurts when he does it and then my breasts are sore the next day. I have told him to be more gentle and "no biting," but he only "behaves" for a little while and then he gets rough again. He sees the bruises, so he knows what he does. I have told him not to bite, but I think it gets him turned on when he does it. Don't get me wrong- I like it a little rough sometimes, but not all the time with the bruises to show for it. Is there a nice way to approach this without hurting his feelings? Please answer seriously. I love him, and there's no way I'm breaking up with him over this- this aspect just needs to be fixed. Thank you!
2007-08-15 08:34:40 · 24 answers · asked by Matty Lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend is not rough like this when we have sex; it's just during foreplay (and after we have sex).
2007-08-15 08:35:55 · update #1
Just be honest with him. Let him know that it's somewhat bothering you and maybe you guys can work something out to make it more enjoyable for the both of you. You guys have such big plans for your futures so would have to start with little obsticles like this to see if you can overcome it and solve it together. Good luck!
2007-08-15 08:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by *hayn/filipina* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him more forcefully. Sex is meant to fun for both parties. If he's doing that crap all the time you need to train him off it a bit like you might do with a dog. Next time he's trying to get it on - say politely no thanks, I don't like it when you bite my nips. That'll bring him into line. If he promises not to do it but then starts doing it during foreplay why not nip his bollocks and then see how he likes it. He sounds like a bit of a prat actually.
2007-08-15 08:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be honest with him about this and talk it out, what will you do when something more serious comes up? Also, if you have brought it up several times already and he is still doing it, either he has no respect for you or you did not say it in a way that made him understand that you are totally serious. He needs to repect you in all ways, all the time!
2007-08-15 08:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by TC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may be extreme, but during foreplay, be a bit too rough on him. During oral, bite him a bit and say 'you tell me when this hurts' and continue
He has to get it through his head that your body responds differently to different thing and even if it turns him on, you shouldn't suffer for it and you are.
If he won't see your side of it, abstain from sex until he understands it's more your way or the highway for sex.
2007-08-15 08:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by brettj666 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him that it hurts, you don't like the bruises,
and you mean it--if he hurts you again, that's it--no sex.
PERIOD.. He does it during foreplay, so if he does it again,
you yell," OUCH! That's it! No more!" And leave the room.
But you have to talk the talk and walk the walk. If you say you
won't do it, and you do, it will fail.
2007-08-15 08:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u just need to sit him down and talk to him face to face before foreplay...and if he doesnt listen then stop the sex and make him listen by walking away...but do it carefully so that he doesn't get upset
2007-08-15 08:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But other than talking to him and reminding him to take it easy, there isn't much else you can do.
Since your sure he's the one, this is something he must really like. Don't stop telling him what you like and don't like, maybe he'll get the hint soon enough.
2007-08-15 08:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Leann ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be like, my breasts hurt really bad, or I don't feel good. Just try to play it cool. But tell him nicely that if he doesn't stop, no sex.
2007-08-15 08:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Cleveland Browns Girl! Go team! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone bruises you against your permission, it is considered abuse. He is not being respectful of you or your wishes. I would suggest sex therapy. Because if he has not listened to you yet, he will never listen to you.
2007-08-15 08:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listern if hes to rough than you should let him no you should not allow anyone to do things to you that cause you pain.
listen tell him he is to rough and you dont like it thats all you dont want tobreak up with him so do what makes you happy.
good luck
2007-08-15 08:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋