Is it weird to plan a bridal shower if you aren't the Maid of Honor??

Question

My sister-in-law is due to be married this year (technically) but they are having a formal ceremony next year (on the wedding anniversary) so, She asked her sister (my other sister-in-law) to be her Maid of Honor, but then today called me and asked if
I could plan the bridal Shower???
I always thought it was the MOH's responsibility...am I wrong??

Last year when me and my hubby got married we didn't have an "official wedding shower" but we had a small get together an my maid of honor planned it.

I don't even know where to BEGIN!!!! BTW It's next August

so, does anybody have any suggestions on where to begin??? I've checked websites, but all the games seem so cheesy...lol

Answer 1

It could also be that she felt like she had to name your sister-in-law as the maid of honor, but she really thinks you'd be better at putting together the bridal shower. Consider that an honor.

Answer 2

I agree, the MOH usually plans or helps plan the bridal shower. She may trust u to be more fun or more tasteful. However, a wedding shower is great when both sides of the family can help and have fun all together.

For a great game idea i did for my sisters shower is He said, She said, We said:
1. B4 the shower day you create about 10 questions to ask both the bride and the groom (seperately) like "When i first met him/her i thought __________", " My fiance's mom is _____", " What i look forward to most on our wedding day is________"
2. Record the quests and answers and type it, copy it for all guest to write in. Keep orig. 4 self.
3. Any answer they give that sounds basically the same u throw in a fake answer. (we said)
4. The guest must write down who gave which answer. The one who answers 10 correct or close to it wins a prize.
Another idea is inviting one of those romance people with all the goodies and toys to buy for the honeymoon, etc. Real good fun depending on the audience. My girls did it 4 me at my shower and we still use the goodies.

Answer 3

It is traditionally the MOH to plan the wedding shower but your sister-in-law knows that you are the one she wants because she must have seen your home and how neat you are and how good you can arrange things she figures you are the best on for the job.I myself as the mother of the bride I became the coordinator,the food coordinator.I made a lot of the stuff by hand,especially her bouquet,her throw -away bouquet,all the things that should have been done by other people,but she chose me.At first I was a little pissed,But I prayed about it and just went to work,mind you I had never ever had done a wedding.But i took control of the situation.What I enjoyed the most was the heart felt complements from everyone there,because she got on the loud speaker and Thanked me for everything I had done and let everyone know that I had done this all by myself.That's the power from the man above who gave me the strength in just 3 weeks to prepare this wedding.So i'm guessing that's where sister-in-law got her wisdom from to ask you to do this for her,so just enjoy yourself and not let it get to you.You will be blessed and thank for this.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!P.S.I bought a book on how to do things for a wedding and it work out well,but I was so beat after everything ,but I'm still here.At least you have a year.

Answer 4

There's not a cute and dry answer for this. The MOH has duties on the day of the wedding...that the bride and she discuss. The shower is usually given by members of the bride's family or closest friends (whether they are in the wedding party or not)

I'm getting married and not having any wedding party. My family is throwing me a shower in my home town, and my best friend and boss are throwing me one where I live now.

The one thing that IS odd about this, is that she ASKED you to do it. Usually, someone OFFERS to give the bride a shower. It's not customary that she demand one. She probably doesn't know this, and might be trying to include you more, since she didn't ask you to be MOH.

Answer 5

Anyone can offer to plan a shower. It is a very nice gesture. There are all types of showers, so work with the maid of honor and see what she has planned so you do not duplicate it. Even the guest list should be different. People should not be made to feel like they have to get more than one gift.

Answer 6

No, it isn't the obligation or responsibility of the maid of honor to host a shower. She can, but isn't obligated to. Anyone who is not family (unless they are a member of the bridal party) and is invited to the wedding can host a shower.
However, what your sister in law is planing to do is not proper. Once she's married she cannot be married again. Only those invited to the wedding, which is the ceremony, can be invited to the shower.
I would certainly opt of of getting involved in this fiasco.

Answer 7

Yes is is usually the maid of Honor who preform the bridal shower, but since she ask her sister to be the maid of honor maybe she feels bad that she did not ask you to do or be in the wedding, so she is asking you to give the shower,it's easy enough to give it's not hard, and why don't you ask the maid of honor to help you with the shower, that's if you decide to give it. First find out if the maid of honor knows about you giving the shower, so their will not be any hard feeling.

Answer 8

its not weird, you didn't mention if either of you are in the same town as the bride. If you are, and the other is not, that is a valid reason. You would be more familar with resources that are available.
she might also be doing this so that you both feel included in the wedding plans. If she's the MOH, having you plan the shower makes you more important than another guest.

Answer 9

It's technically the MOH's duty, but you don't always have to follow those little rules... in my family, it's usually not one person who does it all, but the whole fam. We all get together and take on certain responsibilities to throw a shower, it's never really been one person's job. Maybe she thinks you will be able to plan a better shower, who knows. Just get some other people in on it so you won't feel so bogged down with it all... they're fairly simple once you separate the workload anyway. Good luck!

Answer 10

Showers are OFFERED by good friends and relatives to honor the bride. It's rude for a bride to ASK someone to throw a shower -- it's tantamount to her saying "will you put an event together for me and ask people to get me gifts." How rude to put you on the spot.

Maybe you could say something like, "Usually, a friend or relative or your maid of honor will offer to host a shower for you. Maybe we should wait 'til closer to the wedding and see who offers to throw one for you, so we won't be inviting the same people to two different events."