How do I get over anxiety when I see a police officer?

Question

I had a terrible divorce. My ex was given visitation every single weekend and he took the kids almost 4 weeks out of the winter months. I never seen my kids on Christmas, Christmas eve, new years or on the weekend holidays...Mothers day and Easter for 15 yrs.
My son is now 22 yrs old and will not speak to his dad and has not spoken to his dad for over 5 or 6 yrs.
I mistakenly believed he would leave the kids with me on mothers day and share the Christmas Holidays.
I missed a court date and was picked up by the police because his attorney quit and I believed I did not have to appear in court. I was arrested.
I was told by him on mothers day to pick the kids up at noon and the police was called when I arrived, and picked me up at home for criminal tresspassing.
He called the cops on me all of the time, so as a result of their constant badgering and hauling me off to jail, I dont trust them.
I think they were out to get me and still are. How do I handle this and get over it?

My ex and I divorced over an affair he had with his secretary. He never has paid child support and never helps me with anything to do with our kids. My daughter is a mess as a result. He was very physically abusive and the police let him go after he busted one of my front teeth out. I was approx 7 months pregnant They told me I must like it because I "stayed with him".

The county police are out to get me, no ifs ands or buts. When I appeared in court the last time after being arrested on mothers day, the states attorney apoligized for me even being hauled to jail and handed me my cash bail money in an envelope and requested the judge drop all charges which he did. The states attorney even admits the police were wrong to arrest me.
2 yrs ago, a city cop pulled me over in the grocery store parking lot to tell me to get out of town because he was supposed to serve me a warrant. I dont know why he helped me but he did. I thought he was there to cuff me and haul me off. He has since got to the state police and i wish I could see him again to tell him Thank you a bunch!!!
I have just been a single mother to 2 children and graduated from college while all this was going on.

Answer 1

You don't, you just try and stay away from them. I had a real bad experience with a couple of cops, they were off-duty at the time. I went to the hospital for treatment and they sent a deputy because they saw what "someone" had done to me, and guess who showed up ... yeah, the cop who did it.

So I refused to speak, he left, I got treated and went on with my life. I practically pee on myself whenever I see one.

Answer 2

There is a battered women shelter in your community - go there and ask for a referral to a counselor who can explain to you your rights and obligations. Believe me, these people are on YOUR side. You may be eligible for legal assistance at greatly reduced rates - and you do need legal assistance. The response of the police is inexcusable regarding your broken tooth - he should have been arrested and charged with criminal assault.
Also - where is the court that ordered your particular visitation regime? You need a lawyer to help you explain why you missed your court date.
Never, but never, accuse the police of being "out to get you". When a judge hears a remark like that, he or she is going to come down on you extra hard. The cops may not be doing their best for you, but that's real different from being "out to get you" - which all cops know is a criminal offense.
Go get that help - this misunderstanding should have been cleared up long ago, and the longer you allow it to continue, the harder it's going to be to convince a judge to lighten up on you.