My finance and I were previously Catholic and are now turning to nondenominational. The problem is both sides of family the would be so upset if the wedding wasnt in the church so we agreed. We both said however that we will not promise to raise out kids Catholic but will expose them, we arnt having a mass, communion, we are having a duel ceramony with our new minister and old priest to represent all sides present.. I know you may find this odd its just that both of us have very Catholic backgrounds and this particular church is meaningful to us and beautfiul. Do you think that I am wrong for having it there? In my mind its JUST a building and we are getting married in the Lords eyes no matter where it is. Am I off?
Please I dont want any people telling me if i should or shouldnt be Catholic only if the building matters?
2007-08-15 06:47:01 · 7 answers · asked by MadKat 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I DONT NOT care to hear if you think me not being Cathlic is right or not
2007-08-15 07:11:37 · update #1
Not necessarily wrong, but I can't see how your relatives who remain Catholic would be pleased about anything less than a nuptial Mass ... appeased, perhaps, that you'll at least be doing this in the presence of a priest and within sight of the Tabernacle.
If the priest is on board with this and is aware that you don't plan to raise your children in the Church, then that's all the validation you should need. You'd do just as well having this dually-officiated compromise ceremony anywhere. No, the actual building doesn't matter, as long as you remain respectful of the faith represented there and aren't doing this just so it looks nice in the pictures. And that's something only you can know.
2007-08-15 07:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Clare † 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the priest will go for it, especially the part about not raising the kids catholic, but it never hurts to ask. Maybe the family will be happy with the union being blessed after you're married, if the church says no. To the church, it isn't just a building, it's the dwelling place of God, the body and blood are present, it's where God bridges the gap between heaven and earth, so I wouldn't be surprised if you are refused. To the church , you wouldn't be married in God's eyes, only man's, unless the union is sanctioned and blessed by the church. Unless you have a very liberal priest.....this may require more work.
2007-08-15 07:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being married in the Catholic Church is much more than just using a building. The fact of marrying in "A" Catholic church means being a member of "THE" Catholic Church. Also, your priest is violating Canon Law on several points if he intends to officiate at the marriage of two non-Catholics. If it is a Catholic wedding, then a Protestant minister may be present by permission, but may not take part in the actual ceremony. If it is not a Catholic wedding - and it is not if you are not Catholic - then it cannot be held in a Catholic church, and a Catholic clergyman may not participate.
Also, you are making the mistake of your lives by abandoning the only Church Jesus Christ founded for you, in favor of unauthorized, watered down, manmade semi-Christianity. You should reconsider whether you are actually getting married "in the Lord's eyes" while rejecting the only place you can receive the fullness of His grace.
2007-08-15 06:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not Christian at all. But I do think that as long as you are being married by your old priest and new minister, you are doing a really lovely thing! You're incorporating your upbringing to appease your parents, but you are also going by your new faith too!
The place doesn't matter. I'm sure if you believe in it, that your God is watching you and will be there with you that day whether it is in a church or in a park, it won't matter.
Remember... don't worry about your parents, this is YOUR day!
Lots of luck and Congratulations!
2007-08-15 06:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic Church is not a stage for your pretty wedding. It is a house of "god" in the Catholic tradition. it is wrong to get married there if at least ONE of you doesn't subscribe to Catholic beliefs.
2007-08-15 06:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by ms_coktoasten 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who gives a crap! You can get married anywhere it doesn't matter. You don't need anyone's blessings. Not your family, not your fiance's, not the priest, and not god.
2007-08-15 07:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by fortyfootpianist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeh right . Ive got a bridge to sell in brooklyn ya want to buy it.
2007-08-15 06:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋