after a slew of bad set ups one of my close friends decided to set me up on a blind date with one of his best friends. i trust this friend emmensily so i have no qualms about meeting this new person. upon meeting this new person i really liked everything he stood for.. good morals, great sense of humor, very caring, all around - great guy. my problem is i'm not completely sure if i like him.... i'm kind of bothered by the fact that he smiles so much. don't get me wrong it's a nice smile, but he's always smiling.... and it's making me uncomfortable. his smile is always like "i just got a brand new bike (on christmas)" i'm starting to feel a little uncomfortable with the relationship and i don't know if i should go with my instincts and stop dating him or let it go further and see if things work out.
2007-08-15 06:36:36 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
***NOTE***
Those are not my children... i'm using a friends account to write this.
2007-08-15 06:45:55 · update #1
just to add a little side bar-
it's not a creepy smile, it's not an approval seeking smile, it's a blissfully giddy childish i'm insanely happy smile. i'm not a gloomy person but i can't plaster a smile on my face 24/7 and pretend the world is great.
it's not that i'm unhappy, i'm just feeling a little more reserved about my emotions, i do smile when i'm happy, but i'm not going to pull a muscle doing it.
2007-08-15 06:51:44 · update #2
If you can't deal with a happy guy, then he's probably not for you. Personally, I'm a happy-go-lucky guy too. I smile A LOT. But when I'm mad or upset, you'll know that too... I'm just an emotional guy.
Basically, either be a happier person yourself and accept him or tell him it's not going to work out.
2007-08-15 06:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's probably smiling all the time because he's hoping you reciprocate, and to him that'll mean your having a good time, and he'll feel like a man. A lot of guys smile for a reason similar to this. It's an approval seeking based smile, and it's up to you whether or not you want to deal with it. I'm no woman, but as a male, I laugh when I mean it.
2007-08-15 13:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say use that famouse female intuition,and asise from that i'll prbably say give the guy a chance, and may sit and talk to him and make him aware that his excessive smiling is making you uncomfortable, but firt before doing this take some time by your self and really think carefully and decide in your mind how lomg you can see your self being wiht him and if he's really what you're looking for.Hope i helped.
2007-08-15 13:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by daynerampersad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE BOTHERING TO ASK THE QUESTION YOU DO NOT LIKE HIM! Smiling too much is typical approval-seeking behavior. Do not waste your time.
Also, do NOT wait around for someone to find you. Take a pro-active approach and meet people. It doesnt matter how many mental signals you send to the cute guy in line at starbucks, he will not bother to meet you. Go approach him, hint, 'accidently' bump into him. DO something!
2007-08-15 13:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ! come on there is no any reasons make you stay at home a whole day , just go and date like what people often do , he is just ..a guy anyway , you need more time to understand someone , it is good when u feel something you dislike from him , you will find out more n more or . . . who knows you might like him little by little , just give u both a chance , and be sure that your wise is always with you and help you to handle everything
2007-08-15 13:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a nice and friendly guy to hang out with. Give yourself some time and dont judge this relationship so fast. Give you and him a chance, you might receive an unexpected surprise. Good luck! =)
2007-08-15 13:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your instincts. You may not be able to put your finger on it.. but something about this guy bothers you. Listen to yourself and end the relationship now.
How many women do you think that end up in an abusive (or worse) relationship say to themselves.... "I wish I had listened to my instincts"....
How many mothers of hurt/abused (or worse) children ask themselves "Why didn't I listen to my instincts?"
Now... I'm not saying this guy is a whack-job and will hurt you or your kids... I'm just saying... that you need to listen to your own inner voice(s) and what they have to say.
2007-08-15 13:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you like his personality so I would definately have one more date. Maybe he just really likes you and is trying to look inerested. If he still has that face after your second date then maybe I would think about either telling him or leaving him. Only you know though.
Hope you make the right choice, Good Luck!
2007-08-15 13:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if those are your two kids in the profile pic then stay with him.. your not going to get many other opportunities. so take it while you can.. men avoid the mommy like the plague.. you can't really be too picky now can you..
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he prob has the smile because he is thinking of stories he is going to tell your close friend when they hang out..thats us guys for ya.. if you feel uncomfortable boot him. why bother trying to figure it out. or buy him some downers
2007-08-15 13:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if it's one of those creepy smiles, somethings going on. he might likr you too much. sometimes, if you give it too much time, then he'll get attached to you and you won' be able to break free. the is a tough spot. if you feel as if you really have to get away, then go for it. but if you like him that much. go ahead and date him.
2007-08-15 13:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by hummel kid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋