so there is this guy at my church. lets say his name is Nathan. he asks me to hold his hand and he always tells me "I love you" i have a huge crush on him and i am not sure if he likes me for real, so i never say it back. oh and by the way, he is four years older than me(i am 12!). please be nice to me(unless that is really what you think), i have had my heart broken too many times.
2007-08-15 06:06:10 · 18 answers · asked by norskie_gurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am leaving for florida in a week and i will be gone for two weeks. i am going to miss him so much. every time i listen 'Far away' by Nickelback i think of him.
2007-08-15 06:08:05 · update #1
i dont mean i have had my heart broken THAT way too many times. when i was ten, my 26 year old brother was hit by a truck and was instantly killed i am still grieving over that and this is my first crush and i really trust this guy. he and my 16 year old brother are best friends and nathan lets me use his playstation when he comes over to stay with my brother, and all kinds of stuff. I KNOW HE IS NOT JUST TRYING TO USE ME FOR SEX, OK!?! i trust everything in him and about him. he is black and i love him, i am just scared to tell him. please help.
2007-08-15 06:19:20 · update #2
honey if he is 16 and you are 12 you need to run!!!
He is too old! Guys that age are only thinking of sex!
Ask your momma or your grand momma or most of all, your dad! he knows how guys are! 16 year old guys are on a level of hormones raging and they will ALL tell ANY girl the same thing if they think they can get something from you. My advice is to talk to your parents or grand parents or someone older that you trust
2007-08-15 06:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are 12 years old. I remember being 12 and having crushes and thinking that the world would come to an end if a certain guy didn't feel the same way I did. We have all been there. Your life is just beginning. And the fact that he is 16 years old, that is too old for you right now. Like everyone has said, all boys at 16 will tell you exactly what they think you want to hear. (Even as an adult, grown men will do the same thing) The hormones are raging and it just isn't a good situation to put yourself in. And believe it or not, it is true. During your time away, really think about what you have said and what is really reasonable. At 12 years of age, you are not adult enough to make that kind of decision right now. And to be honest, at both your ages, you really don't have the least idea of what 'love' really is.
I'm also so sorry for the loss of your brother. Right now, I think you need to focus on yourself, and 'lean' on your girlfriends. You need comfort from friends and family on your loss. Having friends that are boys is fine, but don't try to grow up so fast. Slow down and enjoy these years with friends. You will one day look back and cherish these times and be glad that you didn't 'rush' in to the adult world.
Good luck to you honey, and may God bless you and your family.
2007-08-23 04:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by irish_indian_fantasy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. You don't Love him and he doesn't Love you. You both may have a crush on each other but in order to love someone you have to actually know the person. I know you say that you know him because he is friends with your brother and he holds your hand but that is not knowing someone. As for the age difference. 16 years old is a little old for a 12 year old. I know you think age does not matter but until you are over 21 years old it matters a lot. A 16 year old can do a lot more than a 12 year old can. What about when he wants to go to his High School Prom. You won't be able to go with him. What about going out on the weekends. I can just about guarantee your parents won't let you go out with him on a date. Is it going to break your heart if he takes another girl to his Prom because you cant go? I am not trying to be mean I am just trying to keep you from getting your heart broken. Stay friends with him. But wait to find someone more of your age. Also since you are still grieving for your brother you may be reaching out to this 16year old to help ease your pain. Good luck to you. Don't be in a rush to grow up because most of us adults would like to be younger with less responsibilities and worries
2007-08-23 01:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 12 and you've already had your heart broken MANY times? Look chick, you need some serious cool down time. I hadn't even given my heart to someone until I was 18... You're a baby, girl. I don't mean that disrespectfully, but you have a lot of time left to enjoy things other than boys. In a few years, you'll lose the opportunity you have right now to live a carefree life of fun under then sun. Enjoy your youth, it only comes ONCE.
2007-08-15 06:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kristen 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
norskie, First I would like to say that I am very sorry for your loss. It is very difficult to loose someone you love and look up too. Now, regarding Nathan, I must agree with the other posts who state that he is too old for you right now. I know it is exciting and scary at the same time to like a boy who is older, and treats you very nice. I do not think that you should tell Nathan that you love him, and I do not think that he should be telling you that he loves you in a romantic kind of way. I really do not want to hurt your feelings, but he probably does care for you very much, but as a friend. I think that you should talk to Nathan, and tell him that you would like to be great friends. I truly feel that you have plenty of time to date. Please try to enjoy your youth with friends of your own age. You have your whole life ahead of you for dating. Sorry, for not telling you something that you would prefer to hear, but I am just trying to be honest.Good luck, and have fun in Florida!
2007-08-23 03:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be mean, but COME ON! Be smart. He is too old for you, you are only 12 years old. Have your crush, but in the meantime, find a guy closer to your own age to hang with.
Plus.. you are 12 years old. You can't have "had your heart broken too many times".
Go back and read this in ten years and trust me...you will laugh at yourself.
2007-08-15 06:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by kc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your twelve so hes 16? well then hes most likely messing with you, i know you say you like him alot but your not ready to say i love you thats obvious, tell him the truth before you leave, tell him you really like him and wil honestly miss him alot. This could cause him to tell you the truth asbotu everything, do it in person so you can see the reaction on his face.
2007-08-15 06:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, u r too young for a romantic relationship...he is ur first crush and thats why u feel that way about him. just try to slow things down or u'll end up heart broken!!!
2007-08-23 01:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by eversmiling1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he would let you grow up before starting all the high level feelings. You hardly know you at this stage of life much less him. God has a plan for your life, if you want to be truely happy do it his way or you will pay for the rest of your life. The choice is yours. God Bless
2007-08-15 06:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, slow down. He's your first crush. That is wonderful!
He is four years older than you and right now at your age, it is too young for anything to happen. Please don't try to grow up so fast. Talk to someone you trust, like another adult.
2007-08-20 20:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋