My ex and have been broken up for a year and a half. In that time she has met someone else. But recently we been spending time together and we have been intimate for a month or two. I told her I want her back but she tell's she cant because she has a boyfriend. I told her that I cant be just friends but she wants me to be her friend. I told all I'm to you is a back up she told me no. Long story short I told I cant talk or see her again she tried to change my mind but I stood my ground. We havent talked or seen each other in a week. The question I have I still want her back but what should I do. And should I have cut her off or just waited to see how things were going to go. I want her back in my life. We were together for 3 years.
2007-08-15 06:02:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry dude, but you are her back-up. Ex-Sex doesn't add to your "body" count. You are what she considers a friend and you are a "comfort" zone to her. And the fact that you want her makes her like the extra attention. If she's not in love with you enough to leave her boyfriend now for you, she's either not going to or she'll come crawling back to you if they break up - and if she does, tell her NO THANKS!! Because she'll only leave you broken hearted again.
Sorry.
2007-08-15 06:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by henibee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this myself, and you are most likely feeling like you want her back because she is seeing someone else, and it has created temptation. A person always wants what they can't have. It's the challenge. My father stated something to me when I was going through a similar situation. He said, "If you put sour milk in the fridge, when you pull it out the next time, it will still be sour." Meaning, you broke up for a reason, and realized that you couldn't work things out. Nothing has changed, and it may seem like it has for now, but once you get back in that groove again it will be the same, and the same or similar problems will arise. I think you did the right thing. There is no need to hurt each other by continuing to see each other for months on end just too eventually come to the conclusion that you have already come to, the break up. Cut it clean and deal with the pain of not being with that person for a month or two rather than however long you decide to do this with her. I have found that cutting ties is the best option. REMEMBER: YOU BROKE UP FOR A REASON....AND THAT REASON STILL REMAINS IN SOME FORM.
2007-08-15 06:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by glitterbugbp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so love if i read this right even though she has a boyfriend you guys continued to be intimate with one another.okay wow! well im ganna give it to you straight this girl is being honest when she says she still wants you as a friend problem is your right its for all the wrong reasons... she need you there as something to fall back on.best way to deal with this is to move on. and you seem like a very sweet ,smart guy and we both know that you can probably do a whole lot better. i think you need an upgrage and watch before you know it she'll be running back to you but thats when you make her relize that your not just something that she can pick up when convinent for her. if your truly her friend you should back off and start to please your needs the right way ! GOOD LUCK !
2007-08-15 06:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up for a reason... or a few... Do you remember those reasons? Have things changed or are you willing to work around those things? And... She is with someone else and cheated on him with you... Would you really be able to trust that she wouldn't do the same to you?... You can't change her mind, or make her do something she doesn't want to.. My personal philosophy on cheating is that there is never a good reason to cheat... If you are tempted then that means something is wrong in your relationship... You need to fix it or get out... So is she going to fix what is wrong or get out? Ask yourself all of these things before you decide whether to continue pursuing her or not... Good luck, and be careful!
2007-08-15 06:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Angel_Mom of 2 Pretty Girls 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your want and her want are jiving! there for you can wait it out (sad) or you can move on (good) I know it hurts when someone you love don't love you back. but if she wanted you back that oppertunitie has been showen to her and she didn't accept it! sorry!
plus if she is cheating on her new boyfriend what would stop her from cheating on you?
you seem like a sweet dude and i know your heart is set on her but try opening your heart for others to come into yourlife as hard as that is you can do it! You deserve more then some cheatting ex. You deserve someone who will love you for who you are, someone who will be honest to you, and someone who will be there for you when you need it not when they think you need it! (maybe then too)
I'm no relationship expert but I strongly feel that you need to let her go!
another statement :
If you let it go and it comes back it was made to be! and by coming back isn't a backup plan she would of dumped her man for you!~
I wish you the best of luck!
if by chance you need to soul search foryourself check this site out coping.org! it's a text based site and full of a ton of info! some may help you!
2007-08-15 06:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't make her choose between you and her current boyfriend. The best thing to do is let her be in your life, but don't try so hard. Just give it time, and be friends with her for now. Maybe in a couple of months or so you can try to talk her into being more than just friends with you. Good luck!
2007-08-15 06:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r broken up & she is with someone else and sleeping with you. she can't get back with you because she has a boyfriend and she just wants to be friends? what kind of sense does this make? none!! know you didn't do the wrong thing why would you want a cheater in the first place. she would do the samething to you. go out find someone else who is available. and trustworthy. you always want what we can't or shouldn't have. the past is the past don't waste anymore time on her.
2007-08-15 06:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had a boyfriend while she was intimate with you, imagine if you were that boyfriend. I am sure you would not tolerate that in a girl. Let time by, she apparently doesn't know what she wants. Don't push it, it could only get worse. Give her some more time, but I would really try to walk out of it...
2007-08-15 06:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. And thast really all you are to her is a back up she has a boyfriend but shes have sexx with you?? You need to be the bigger persona nd leave her alone. If she wanted you in her life for more than just a back up than she would let you know. Sorry but the truth hurts.
2007-08-15 06:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so funny, I was going through something similar. I was dating this guy for about a year, and then we broke up. We got BACK together (mistake) and tired again only to fail for the same reasons as before. I know this is not your same situation, but my point is you really shouldn't get back with this girl. I know it is hard, the hardest thing it that they are familiar and easy to go back to. But ultimately when things are over....they are meant to be left alone.
2007-08-15 06:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋