Don't know what to do?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. we recently hit a snag when my mom fell on hard times and my brother and sister had to move in with us in our 1 bedroom apartment. We got into an arguement about my sister calling and asking my bf for a ride from work. He chewed me out stating that it's not his sister and he should not have to pick her up. We have been having the same discussion for the past seven days and that's how long my brother and sister have been at my house. Finally I got upset and told him that we need a break now I regret it. It's been two days since I last seen him and I am too stubborn to call just like he is to stubborn to call me. What should I do?

Answer 1

Nita, men will come and men will go but your family is your family and they need you and if he can't understand that then he isn't much of a boyfriend. What if the shoe was on the other foot and he need a place for his sister and brother to go. Would you treat him like he is treating you? If he loves you and I mean really loves you then he would understand that this is your brother and sister for God sake. I don't know how old your brother and sister are but it really doesn't matter cause they are family regardless. I think you taking them in was a very selfless act on your behalf. He needs to grow up cause it could have been his family that need his help. As for calling him, the both of you need to let that pride go and just talk about it. If he can't understand your families position right now then no matter how long you have been with him maybe he isn't the one God has for you. Pray and ask God about it and ask God to direct your path as well as your heart. If he can't understand that your family is important to you and they need you two then what kind of boyfriend is he? God Bless

Answer 2

wow ! okay well first of all 6 years is a very long time so im sure you guys have hit bigger snags then this. its always good to reflect on how you got through some of your older and bigger issues so that getting through this one will go alot smoother. i know that we all become victims of being stubborn at the most intense time thats why you have to look past w.e is in your head and just pick up the phone. call your man and talk things out let him know that you do understand where he's coming from with the whole "sister issue" then exsplain to him that your family has hit a temporary snag and that you need him around to get through just as support. always remember if your relationship means as much to you as it does it means that much to him also. just talk about how the last few days were a mistake and that you wish you could take it back and that you'ed rather get through the arguments with him them without him<3 im sure everything will be fine and i hope everything works out with your family . GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

none of this is his fault not trying to be mean but you shouldn't have put your relationship in this situation because he is right it's not his sister and thats not his responsibility....stop being stubborn because he might be waiting for you to call and if you don't call you could lose the love of your life!

Answer 4

Call him, you have been together 6yrs, at this point i would ask why arent you 2 married? But thats none of my buisness!! Good luck , i,m sure it was just the stress of having so many people in such tight quarters.

Answer 5

It sounds that you might need to tell your family to get on with their lives because they have started to put a crimp in yours.
It is commendable that you have helped them out and your boyfriend was there with you but now the strain has made things difficult in your relationship with him.
If you want a future with him, it is time to choose.

Answer 6

Call him and tell him that you are sorry. And the kids need to go. It's cool for a minute to help family but you and your bf need your space.

Answer 7

You were wrong. Call him and tell him if you want him back. And the kids need to go.