ok my bf started to drink about a while ago. about a week ago he came home drunk and pushed me and i have a bruise on my side.and i left i knew he didnt know what he was doing but since we have been broken up he has sobered up do i go back and take that risk again please help
2007-08-15 05:37:54 · 28 answers · asked by I♥EdwardCullen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I put up with the same crap.Don't go back if you dont have too.
2007-08-15 05:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. because regardless of what either of you say, you will telegraph this message to each other...."what happened was okay because he was drinking, therefore, if he's drinking again, the same rules will apply." There is no such thing as a chemical excuse to commit an offense, so don't try to create one. He is on the verge of developing a problem, and he doesn't need any help or company while doing it. Many people drink, some of them to excess, but they still manage to not assault people. On the other hand, there are plenty of other people who do assault folks with little or no provocation whatsoever. That they occassionally do both is irrelevant. He needs help, and you can't help him...you're too close to the situation, and you've been assaulted so that shifts your responsibility to that of self-preservation. Wish him the best of luck and tell him to get to steppin'.
2007-08-15 05:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No! It is not an excuse that because he was drunk he didn't know what he was doing when he injured you. Do you think the next time he gets lit and blindly grabs the paring knife you were preparing dinner with and... that it'll make a difference if you are dead or impared for the rest of your life?
There is NEVER a reason or excuse for someone who claims to care about you to hurt you. He needs to get help-- anger management, excessive drinking-- and until he does, you don't need to be anywhere around him. You've stated you've already broken up, so why are you tolerating this? Obviously, there was a reason for it, so listen to your gut!
Get gone girl!
2007-08-15 05:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he gets drunk again one day? More drunk than this time? What if he loses his temper while drunk and hits you many times, really hard? He might regret it once sober but that doesn't stop it from happening.
Is this a risk you are willing to take? More importantly, are you willing to life in the fear of the risk of this happening again? Only you can answer that. What kind of guarantee can he give you it will NEVER happen again? And, can you trust his word?
Only you can tell. But think what advice YOU would give if this was (for example) your child asking for advice.
2007-08-15 05:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Paula879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the situation? Have you two been together for a long time or have you just been dating a couple months? If you've been together for a long time, you love him, and are sure that he will not pull this behavior again, then I would give him another chance. But make sure it's clear that you will not put up with his violent behavior and if he starts drinking again, leave.
2007-08-15 05:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by jackibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh **** no! Any guy that hurts a girl, especially just because he was drunk, is a POS. Don't go back out with him again, because chances are, he won't be sober again until he goes into rehab. Sorry this happened to you!
2007-08-15 05:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be a reason why out of nowhere he started drinking whether it be problems or friends, etc... - The fact he pushed you is not good and he needs to know that will never happen again without him seeing a jail cell and if you feel like you still have feelings and think that he can be the type of man you want, give him another chance on your terms
2007-08-15 05:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a week, make sure he knows what he has done, and get him into some sort of AA group, tell him if he is seriously wanting you back, you won't go back until he gets help! Because next time, it could be a lot worse
2007-08-15 05:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because push comes to shove which becomes more violent behavior which ends up with you getting punched and then much worse. Besides why would you stay with a guy that is going to push you like that when plenty of good, honest, NON-VIOLENT guys are out there.
2007-08-15 05:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by bm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunk or not drunk, he knew who you were , there is no excuse for him pushing you. What will it be next time? You did the best thing!! Leave and don't go back.
2007-08-15 05:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with a recovering alcoholic it was the longest years of my life. Problems with alcohol are huge and life changing, even for you. Make sure you carefully consider the pros and cons. In my opinion it won't get better, it will get worse. Good Luck
2007-08-15 05:42:20 · answer #11 · answered by Lindsey J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋