My bf complains all the time bc he tells me that im not willing to experiment like with toys and different places etc. should i be more adventurous???
2007-08-15 05:28:11 · 12 answers · asked by Chi Chi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only if you want to. He needs to respect and understand if you don't want to. If you do then go ahead and try whatever YOU want to do. Do not let him pressure you into anything you don't want to try. Being adventurous can be really fun and exciting if your up for it. Talk about it and go shopping for toys together. Then go home and try it out and just have fun with it.
2007-08-15 05:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by 1spunkylover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason you don't want to experiment? If you have serious issues (psychological or physical) for not trying them, then don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Otherwise, you should go ahead slowly and gently and try some new things. Don't jump right into a full bondage, S & M scenario, but maybe try having sex in a different room, or using a vibrator. You might stumble onto something that blows your mind, and both you and your boyfriend with end up VERY happy!
2007-08-15 05:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ahni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you're comfortable with - if you don't like the ideas your boyfriend is throwing out, then tell him so. If you do just go with him, and do all the things he is suggesting, feeling uncomfortable in doing so, you are guaranteed not to enjoy the experience.. I think you could compromise by being a bit more adventurous, but don't get to the stage when you're doing something that you're not comfortable with. You shouldn't feel obliged to do everything he says.
2007-08-15 05:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Libra ♎ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be more open but remember to be honest and communicate back with him. You say complains, I hope this isn't about you just giving in to him.
Be open, listen and let him know what you would be willing to try. When letting him know that your not ready to try something don't be rude, just be yourself.
If what he is asking for is definitely out then be direct in saying so. String along the idea will only led to a later disappointment.
Besides this is a great time for you to let him know the things that are pleasurable to you.
2007-08-15 05:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chief Whachusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be a little insecure about it???? Maybe try to talk to him, tell him you might try certain things that you can deal with trying but if you dont like it then it has to stop without him being upset about it. Good Luck!
2007-08-15 05:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you stay within your comfort level. Everything is scary the first time. You may find something you really like! You won't know until you try though!
2007-08-15 05:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Once you start to venture out a little bit you will love it! It adds some excitement.
2007-08-15 05:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by magandenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should!!! It always adds a ton of fun and excitement to your relationship!! Go to a sex store and pick something out together, thats always a good way to connect!! Good luck!!
2007-08-15 05:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Melanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on you if your not comfortable with it let him know. you can start off by trying to change the little things the places you do it at or the postitions you do it in so you get more comfortable with it all. and it brought in easy not all so fast.
2007-08-15 05:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, variaty is the spice of life. Leave him bored and unsatified and he will be looking elsewhere
2007-08-15 05:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lee M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋