We are not being allowed any visits with our grandson Joshua by his parents. We have bonded with him for 4years. His mom hates us and his dad (our son) is so controlled by her that he refuses to bring Joshua to see us on his 2nd weekend visits, (verbally agreed to at a case conference), because she tells our son that I am putting bad things into Joshua's head, and saying that Joshua tells her some bad things I'm saying about her. She tells our son that Joshua is a fu--ing brat when he comes back from seeing my husband and I. We have gotten to see Joshua about 4 to 8 hrs a month over the past year and our bond is being threatened, and we love him very much and believe he is hurting needlessly, but his mom will not talk with us. From previous actions, we know that she doesn't forgive or accept forgiveness. Our son told us he is trying to get her to get someone to supervise visits so that she may eventually realize that Joshua enjoys his time with us. He hasn't been successful so far.
2007-08-15 05:10:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think there are grandparents rights laws in every state, but you will have to go to court. Good luck.
2007-08-19 16:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally the court appoints visitations to grandparents based on specific situations. Every case is different. Some examples: the parents are legally divorced or never married, geographical location, previous relationship with the child, and if the judge believes that there is no threat for the child's grandparents to be involved. This will help decide weather or not you see the child, and if so, for how long and how often.
2007-08-15 05:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a Grandparent Law that is available in most states. You would have to file a petition with the court. A hearing will then be scheduled. Bring any important documentation, you should be keeping a diary of events that provide dates, what occurred, etc. You have rights as a grandparent to be able to have visitation. The process can be long but, it will allow you the rights that you deserve and are worthy of. I would advise that you speak to the lawyer as he/she is familiar with the law.. I hope that this helps and Good Luck. I am not a legal expert but, I am aware that there is a law to help you.
2007-08-15 05:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney, I know in divorce cases there is such a thing as grandparent visitation allowed, but I have no idea when the parents are still married. One thing you do not mention is the age of the child. It sounds like the mother could use some counseling, but at the same time, make sure when you have him, do not say anything about his mother that would shed bad light on her.
2007-08-15 05:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for you to get grandparent visitation you have to sue for it in court. If its that important to you then do it. But it really is the parents choice if they allow you to see him or not if there is not a court order in place. My husbands parents delt with the same thing with my SD and her mother. They are now allowed contact with the child when my husband has her (every other weekend) and are allowed to pick up the child, drop the child off and keep the child for scheduled weekend visits if my husband fails to show up (SD lives 7 hrs away one way and if due to weather he sometimes has to cancel but his dad can still get her). They are also allowed to attend all school functions (plays, concerts and so forth) took them 3 yrs but they did it.
I'd like to add my husband never kept his daughter from his parents but the mother made such snide comments and would call the house all the time making threats it just got to be to much for my in laws so my husband chose to just stay at a hotel when he had his daughter.
2007-08-15 05:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents have more rights than ever today. I would speak to the Friend of the Court, or a social worker familiar with family law. The FOC can give you ideas of what to do. There are also offices who do nothing but counseling for courts, find them and you will find answers too. Good Luck. If it hadn't been for my parents stepping in at the right time, my kids would probably be in trouble now.
Blessed Be and may Peace be with you
2007-08-23 02:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check the laws of your specific state. In some states, a grandparent cannot petition for visitation IF the parents are married (it must be a situation where the parents are divorced, one of the parents is deceased or in prison, or something similar). Your problem is that your son is basically supporting her in this decision. Talk to a local attorney.
2007-08-15 05:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at least in the state of Missouri. Same situation with my parents, my brothers ex-wife took his son and my parents bonded with him for 7 years. My parents took them to court and excersised "grandparents rights". They were given 2 days a month visitation.
Then, the ex-wife moved 4 states away, and now my parents can't drive to go see him.
So she gets her way, but my parents still have the right to see him, but they have to drive there.
2007-08-15 05:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best chance is to consult with an attorney in your area who is knowledgeable and reputable about custody/visitation issues involving grandparents and the court's view in your area. Contact your local bar association and request a list of attorneys specializing in this area of law. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-15 05:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite possible for Grandparents to go to Court and get a legal visitation ordered.
2007-08-20 11:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋