I just met this new guy a few weeks ago and he has me kind of frustrated and confused. When I met him on a Friday night, I didn't call until Monday afternoon because he said he has a little boy and I don't know if I want to deal with any "baby mama drama". He said that night that him & his ex get along great. Ever since that first call, he's called me when leaving work, text me during work, but since his schedule sucks, he doesn't have much time at night so naturally on his day off, I assumed he would want to see me as he said he would. Wrong - he made other plans with his friend at a football game- or so he says. He's said a few times that he would call and then claims to have fallen asleep. Also, since we have spoken more and went to dinner and all that, he's started to make comments about there being drama with his baby mama and how much he can't stand her and a part of me feels like maybe they are still hooking up or something. Should I be worried? Or give him space?
2007-08-15 04:59:08 · 10 answers · asked by Caramella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dunno, that's a tough one. Personally, it doesn't sound like he is very mature. I would move on.
2007-08-15 05:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts.
Sounds a tad flaky around the edges.
If he is still hooking up with the ex, he hasn't moved on or grown up. Chances are he is playing the field for the sake of hooking up alone... having been newly released by a divorce.
Before you get involved, you need to see if this guy really is divorced or not. You see, even if they were just "common law" married, they still need a formal divorce.
Whatever you do, DO NOT move in with anyone until you get to know them thoroughly... their background, their credit, all that. In some states, you are considered common-law married if you cohabitate for one year. That means you will get all of the downside of marriage with none of the benefits. The downside can include getting stuck with all their debts and bills. You can also be held responsible for his unpaid child support... your paycheck can be embellished!
I'm at the point where I really think it is a good idea to do a background check on anyone you think you might be wanting to get serious about.
2007-08-15 05:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space. It's evident he's just got too much going on to be overly worried about getting hooked up with you seriously at this time. If he wants to see you, he'll be in contact. If not, then don't get fretting too much about this one guy. Live your life.
2007-08-15 05:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he sound like my brother. Is all a game you don't need that in your life let him go. Why do you want to be part of a drama? Good Luck
2007-08-15 05:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by smariona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he probably is holding on to his baby mama and he probably is hooking up with her dont put all your focus on him just give him space and let him see if he wants to be with you or not
2007-08-15 05:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space and see were it goes
2007-08-15 05:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust him for now because there's no reason for you to think that hes still messing with her.
2007-08-15 05:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by hottie87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's still involved with the baby mamma. give him space to make up his mind
2007-08-15 05:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by babybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too early to teel. Be very cautious.
2007-08-15 05:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably still lives with her and is seeing you on the side!
2007-08-15 05:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋