I dont know what Im meant to do now or how to feel - My husband and I separated about 2 weeks ago - he left me - I had an inkling he was seeing someone else (It turns out he was) anyway I got over the break up and was happy to see him happy and told him this - anyway I told him the other day that I am going to start looking for someone else and he was a little annoyed - tonight we were chatting on the phone in our usual happy friendly way as we had agreed we would just stay friends (we have a 4 year old daughter) anyway tonight after a long chat he asked me if I had met anyone - I said that I might have and that I didnt know yet (We are meeting tomorrow for the first time) and my ex got really angry with me putting me down in any way he possibly could - I asked him why he was talking to me like that and he just yelled some more then said he had to go - about half an hour later I got an SMS telling me he wanted to commit suicide - I tried reasoning with him that.. will add more on edit.
2007-08-15 04:58:13 · 6 answers · asked by ♥Kazz♥ 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I tried reasoning with him that his daughter still needed him - he sent another back saying again that she didnt need him and that I was there for her and that he was going to do it.. I sent another back just keeping the communication happening and then rang the suicide hotline - he sent a message that he has given up - the suicide people asked me to find out how he intended on doing it so I asked and he sent back just that it would go off with a big bang - I was told to call the police - they came over and got a key but apparently my keys didnt work so they asked my permission to break a window so I gave it - they found him passed out asleep in bed - he said that he did it because he was really pissed with me - how am I meant to take this - he can see others but I cant - he is trying to play with my mind? I dont know what to do - do I remove access from his daughter? well he succeeded in playing with my mind but now Im just angry with him.
2007-08-15 05:02:18 · update #1
Im still going to move on with my life (after all he started seeing someone else and left me) Im just really confused - I have spoken to his family and they are all angry with him (not what I was after I want them to get him some help) Im supposed to go over there tomorrow to sign some paperwork on a car of mine he has sold but I dont know how to face him now... anyone been through this?? How do I deal with it??
If he wanted me back he certainly went around it the wrong way
2007-08-15 05:04:22 · update #2
Well probably the police showing up at his door will keep future attention getting suicide "warnings" to a minimum. This was probably just the realization that he can't eat his cake and have it too. It sounds like he is probably having second thoughts about the new squeeze he had on the side and wants to keep you as a backup in case things don't work out with her
If he was truly wanted to be with the new squeeze and didn't want to be with you he wouldn't care about your dating life. Although speaking from personal experience, dating at this stage is not a good idea until your issues with him are fully resolved. No one wants to get involved in a soap opera with a battle between exes, especially if a young child is involved. It wouldn't be fair to you, the guy you're dating or your kid.
Of course you don't have to let the ex know this. I would recommend that if he asks about future dates that you might have that you tell him flat out it is none of his business who you might be dating and tell him absolutely nothing about your personal life. Change the locks on the doors and check into getting a separate phone line or a cell phone and give this number out to other people you want to talk to. Use voicemails to screen your calls; otherwise you will probably be getting calls from him at all hours to check up on you. Also if you have to meet with him to resolve issues make sure you meet in neutral grounds like a restaurant, coffee shop, etc.
Good luck, it sounds like you'll need it!!
2007-08-15 05:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he was going to kill himself he would do it without saying a word to nobody. so dont think this is real, realise he is tryin to control u and wanting to be with u so u can not meet anybody else. if he is like this then god knows what he would do to ur 3y old when not around, he has mental problems and shouldnt be left alone with her in 1st place. any time get call or text like this again, keep the text and record the phone call and report to the police in ur area, they will sign him into psychiatric unit and make sure he gets the best help he can get and wouldnt be left back out till he is fit enough. u be doing all favour all round if this his way of trying control u and have anger issues aswel horrible threats.. did u ever hear of the true stories, the guy so mad as the ex wouldnt have him back so to get back at the ex, the guy kills their kids to punish her - do want this to happen to u??? bet not so best to get him signed in and ye to keep away he is not fit father right now!!! good luck
2016-04-01 13:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what sms is but, he sounds jealous. i don't know how someone can move on after only 2 weeks anyway. his suicide threat sounds like a control issue and an attempt at attention. if he has family, contact them. this way, if he's for real, they'll see that he gets help and if it's just for attention, he'll see it didn't work
2007-08-15 05:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The suicide thing is his desperate cry for attention and the fact that you've gotten it without him, not to mention the fact that the cheater found out the person he cheated on is not miserable like he thinks you should be. Don't fall for his game. Your handling things great!
2007-08-15 05:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by bm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you do now is none of his business ...are you even divorced yet...or mayby you werent even married...why would you even still be talking to him on a personal level...take him to court or move him back in....dont play games..period
2007-08-15 05:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and let them know. his daughter is not in a safe environment if he's threatening to kill himself.
2007-08-15 05:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rhiannon G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋