To make a long story short: Went out with this guy, but broke up with him because it was too difficult to keep seeing him (he knows the reason why, I explained to him), he still likes me and is willing to go back out and continue to work around the difficulties. However, I feel bad that we have to work around it in the first place and things would be hard anyway! He tells me he's fine with this.
I'm not sure if I still like him, I think I do because I often miss talking/hanging out/etc. with him. But then again, I'm not really sure if I want a boyfriend. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I feel like I need more time to think about this. He texted me just now saying: he still likes me and wants to go out.
How do I respond to this? I want to have more time to think but I don't want him to lose interest and I'll get hurt without expecting it. I also don't want to say yes and make things even more difficult and end up getting hurt anyway.
Please help. I'm very, very confused
2007-08-15 04:50:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Without listing the "difficulties" is hard to really say what you should do. Apparently this guy likes you and is willing to work around those "difficulties". Since you are not sure how you feel about him just keep being friends and see what develops. A relationship my blossom out of this or you may just stay friends. Don't rush it and see what happens.
2007-08-15 04:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Biz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and try and get her to talk to her parents... By her talking to them gives her more options on wether or not she wants to keep it or even adoption she has more options now than she will later. Her parents will find out eventually just make sure it's not to late. And be a good friend and try and help/guide her to make the choices she wants and not what anyone "wants" her to do because she am has to deal with it later on in life no matter what she decides... And like the girl before said her parents will grow to the idea and yes there's a chance they'll loose it but the won't hurt her or the baby. So encourage her to make her decisions that will benefit her in the end.
2016-04-01 13:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you two are broken up for a reason. If you still have feelings for him, and if you still consider going back out with him - but you remember how hard it is to see him and all - then you should talk to him about it. You realize that relationships take work.
You can't just end it because things aren't working out now. Things are likely to work out later. You two need to figure out how you can see each other a little more often - but only if you would want to get back together. But if you're not willing to do that then I guess just let him go.
Don't waste his time. It's obivous he wants to be with you still. You either embrace it or waste it.
2007-08-15 05:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by TegLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to back away and try to look a the situation objectively. What is in it for you and what is in it for him?
Are you just a pit stop? Are you a side-dish? I don't think that is acceptable.
Are you just putting up with him to be nice? Because you are afraid you won't get another boyfriend? That is nonsense.
If you just want someone to go out for coffee with, that might be a good way to get to know him a lot better before you go any further with him.
It really is best to start out as friends for a long time first, because you can get to know them better up front. Getting to know them as friends first gives you the knowledge you need before taking the relationship to the dating level. That way, if they have some serious issues, you won't be going through all the drama of discovery in the heat of the moment.
2007-08-15 05:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start off with if he loves u anough or wants to daite u anough he should not loose in intrest in u if he does that means u guys wouldnt stayed to gether for a wile also... but if u love him but u dont know if u want to daite him tell him what u think.. tell him u want time. and just mabe make a plan to hang out with him and tlk to him about how u 2 can see each other. and it dupends how u and he feels but its allways importent to have ur feelings show more then theres so he knows how u feel dont be shy.
all and all if u can look into his eyes and have no fear of looking away or speaking then mabe u were ment to daite but if he cant wait for u to make up ur mind then he might not be the right. but sence u 2 broke and he says he sill likes u and wants to get back with u and he can wait he might be mr right for a wile. it dupends how old u are to keep daiting for long tirm or not.
2007-08-15 05:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Robert P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want your cake and eat it too it appears. It also appears that you may still have feelings for this guy. Based on that I say go out with him and just keep it friendly and simple.
Most importantly you need to ask yourself why you are not jumping in with both feet. I believe you feel everything must be 100% perfect for a relationship to work.. that is not true. I feel a partner that bends for me is one that truely loves me and I find when I give in to his wishes I embrace the opportunity to do something differently.
How boring to have a partner that always agrees with me 100%. I need someone that will help me expland my horizens and I love showing him "my way".
If you feel "chemistry" with this person I feel you should give it a shot.
2007-08-15 05:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok slow down girl. You are not sure if you like him? I think you just answered your question. Dont persue anything move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Find a new man to drool over, Try an online dating, singlesnet.com (free). Try myspace there are some interesting poeple there too. Dont do the up and down emotional rollercoaster thing, its too hard. MOVE ON
2007-08-15 04:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by sarah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you and is truly willing to take things slowly, then perhaps you should try it out as friends first (before progressing back to dating). Let him know that this is all you are ready for (and may ever be ready for), and let him make the decision as to what he wants from there.
2007-08-15 04:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends, I bet he'll wait as long as takes to get with you. This way you'll have time to real evaluate the situation and make a good decision rather than rush and make a bad one.
2007-08-15 04:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him too (and you know him enough to say that he's going to be committed to you), just say yes. Stop worrying so much about the future. THink about "present time". If you always think about the future and what MIGHT happen, you'll go crazy..
2007-08-15 04:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋