please, i dont know what to do. dont tell me to date other people, because i dont want to be with anyone but him. i havent slept all night, ive just been up crying. my heart feels like it was ripped in two. he broke up with me on our anniversary.
2007-08-15 04:15:49 · 30 answers · asked by mingosaysss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
once my boyfriend broke up with me on sweetest day, but we got back together. You should just wait it out, and don't call him. Give him some time to realize what a stupid thing he did, and he'll be callin you back soon saying how wrong he was and how he wants you back. But remember, be patient and don't call him untill he calls you.
2007-08-15 04:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry that happened to you. Works sure won't help much. If you have friends then spend time with them. Talk to a good girlfriend and go do some things together. Try and think of what you can do to help someone. These kind of events always hurt when you feel the loss. HOWEVER, don't give up. You never ever know what is in your future either with this person or otherwise. I am older so I have had a few experiences of hurt and dissapointment. You will get through this. God Bless and don't forget to pray.
2007-08-15 11:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Me and 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easy for people to say "move one" when you dont want to. I was in your shoes some years ago. My girlfriend at the time (of 2 years) broke up w/ me on my birthday because she wanted to "date other people". I didn't realize that meant she had been seeing my friend for a few months. I was devestated. I thought I was in love. I didn't know what to do, I couldn't sleep, I was depressed, I did dumb things to try to win her back...I didn't think I could go on. I just felt numb inside. But after a while I knew that she must have had reasons and if she didn't want me then why would I want her? I had a few rebound relationships but then I met a wonderful woman who eventually became my wife. My ex was all but forgotten. To quote a great Chicago tune "if she would have been faithful
If she could have been true, Then I would've been cheated
I would never know real love, I would've missed out on you". Later my ex came crawling back but it was too late. I realized that I never was really in love with her. And if she was the one for me, she wouldn't have dumped me.
I know the hurt sucks but it is only temporary. If he was the ONE for you he wouldn't have dumped you on your anniversary. I know right now you want to try anything to get him back but most times that just drives them away even more. Let him be. Dont call or bother him. If he is the one he will be back. Give him space and time to consider what he has done. In the mean time DONT SULK! Get out and do things. Go hang w/ the friends that you have neglected since you started dating him. Go meet some new guys but don't get into any relationships for a while. DONT SULK...GET OUT AND HAVE SOME FUN!
My mom always told me as a youngster "It will work out if it was meant to be". I always thought that was BS. It is true...it really is. I wish you the best of luck. Things will be just fine...with or without him,
2007-08-15 11:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Doc Biz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy has the nerve to split with you on your anniversary he's a cold-hearted person who could care less about you. By all mean stay single, maybe join a convent so you don't have to be with anyone else until he grows a heart and comes back to you. He'll probably want to do it on a special occasion like your next anniversary.
If you don’t want to attempt meeting a new guy to be happy then by all means dwell on it and sink even lower than you are now.
You should be angry he did this to you. How you could be entertaining the though of being with him again is beyond me.
2007-08-15 11:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important is ask yourself what has gone wrong in the relationship. You may not understand each other yet, at this moment, both of you needs time to cool down. An unhappy relationship will only hurt each others, so learn to let go for a while, sometime short term break up help the couple to understand the needs for each other.
2007-08-15 11:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysbme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time. he might come back, or he might not. if he doesnt u will get over it in time. don't try and wait for him and don't try and rush into something u r not ready for.
u might wanna have fun with ur friends to keep urself busy but that only applies during the day cause at night when you are all alone it doesnt work cause u r back to it again and there nothing u can do about that.
this is hard i know from expirience but just look at it as if he has opened a door for u closer to ur happiness. think of it as if he was the one obstructing you from finding ur one true love. it might help at some point.
2007-08-15 11:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by dukesta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will hear this from everyone but time will heal you. The reason you will hear it so much is because it's true.
I'm not saying to be mean but...Get used to "breaking up." Your going to go through it many more times in your life. The best we can do is: 1. Realize that the hurt will pass and we will feel good about ourselves again and 2. Hopefully we will learn something about ourselves that will make us a better, stronger and wiser person.
2007-08-15 11:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by tamarack58 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry that he was callous enough to ruin such an important date, however, better he do it sooner that lead you on for a bit.
As for what you should do? Get yourself together and focus on you for a while. treat yourself to a day at the spa, a day at the mall. then get out and try getting involved with activities in your area. Take a class, start to hang out with old friends, make some new friends.
When the time is right and it will be again, someone better will be found.
Good luck
2007-08-15 11:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by papa_lightning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your break up is just recent - then of course what you are feeling is natural - you're human. But if it's been like months or years - then something must be seriously wrong with you. Whether you like it or not - you have to entertain yourself, divert your attention to something else rather than sulking, crying & reminiscing all the sweet moments you have had with him. Would you like him to see you ugly, with heavy bags? Of course not! The more that he will think that - hah, this girl's really in love me. You know the best weapon so you could cope? Well, i have tried this a lot of times & it works - not to mention of course that i try to keep myself busy - THINK OF ALL THE NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT HIM! Bad, right? But it works like magic. Try it - you've got nothing to loose anyway, because you already did! :) Just a joke sister - so you'll lighten up. :) Good luck.
2007-08-15 11:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by noseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it sound like you are not ready to date. and if you do you probably would get the totally wrong guy for you anyways. Just go out with some girlfriends or stray at home read a book. e might come back and apologies or you may feel you are ready to date at that time.
2007-08-15 11:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by sansan4828 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That's really horrible, but you need time to get used to this sort of "life" without him. I'm sure it's hard, because I'm sure you guys were with each other all the time. But don't let this interfere with your normal life. I know you don't want to date anyone else right now, but that's okay. But eventually, you will want to try someone else, even if you don't think so right now. my sincerest apologies, and I hope you feel better.
P.S. Try to cry it all out. Also, if there's someone you confide in, like your mom or your friend or someone, talk to them, it will make you feel better.
2007-08-15 11:23:40 · answer #11 · answered by sugarsnap335 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋