I've been seeing this guy for a while. He is been a great guy and everything that we have is wonderful. He treats me like a lady and we do things for eachother all the time. My parents and family are 100% Italian and I am dating a cuban/peruvian man. I am no where near racist, and I love all race's equally. My parents always wanted me to continue our Italian race and marry an Italian man. They wanted my kids to be Italian and continue on the family tree. I feel horrible because I think I am letting them down. I'm afraid when we get married and have children because I have had that image in my head since I was a little child to have Italian child and marry and Italian man. Is this wrong of me to be a little scared to move the relationship foward? I mean I love this guy alot and I would do anything for him but I also love my family. I'm a horrible person I know, but can someone please tell me whats wrong with me and why do I feel this way?
2007-08-15 04:10:05 · 6 answers · asked by LacrosseGirl5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also he doesnt even look spanish/ have an accent. He is very lighted skined and very handsome.
2007-08-15 04:12:23 · update #1
you were brought up with the belief that marrying an italian was the right thing to do. that it would continue an italian line. it's only natural that you would be a little nervous of marrying someone who isn't italian. maybe you should talk to your folks. perhaps his heritage doesn't bother them at all and it's just your childhood beliefs holding you back. just remember, when all is said and done, you have to please yourself before anyone else.
2007-08-15 04:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you not heard of the word "Globalization".
in your case, an Italian lady gets married with a Cuban / Peruvian man; goes for honeymoon in South Africa; gives birth to 1st child in US, 2nd in India and lives happily ever after in Australia.
there is a phrase in Hindi: "Agar Miya aur Bhibhi Raazi, tow kya karega Kaazi". It means, if Groom and Bride is in love, made-for-each other and decided to get married and live together forever, then what is the purpose of the priest.
remember, its very heard to get a companion who will be there for you, for anything throughout your life.
if you think he is the guy, and you two love and support each other so much, go ahead, get married.
2007-08-15 04:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to marry for love, not for race.
Your family can give suggestions but in the end it is your choice who you date and who you marry. If they dont like it they can f off
2007-08-15 04:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill i think that ur parents need 2 let it go. the man that God has 4 u may not be italian. follow what ur heart says and ur in love.
2007-08-15 04:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're parents are traditional... but if they love you they'd want you to be happy- if they come between you and your happiness because they want you to date an italian man, then THEY are being the selfish ones! (no offense to them- i'm sure they're good ppl regardless)
2007-08-15 04:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him, u already know how to explain to yr parents.
2007-08-15 04:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋