Do teachers ever grow up?

Question

I am married to a physics teacher who, although very intelligent, appears to have an emotional age of about two. He is demanding and can throw a strop that would impress the average toddler. His constant nagging about our daughter's eating habits are just the thing to make her anorexic. Is that what he really wants? His colleagues that I know seem equally juvenile and his descriptions of the goings on in the staff room seem more appropriate to a badly run creche. He is drivng me demented.

Am I just unbelievably unfortunate or is emotional immaturity a common characteristic of teachers?

I forgot to add that he has just had seven weeks of summer holiday and moaning that the break wasn't long enough. I don't get that many holidays in a year.

To Mushy - he wasn't a teacher when I met him and he seems to have got worse with age (or I have grown up and he hasn't).

Answer 1

LOL. He may be smart, but he has no common sense.

Seen it over and over again. I think there should be a CS quotent that is used next to the IQ, to determine how 'smart' someone is.

Just because they know alot about a certain subject, that doesn't mean that he has either common sense, or social skills, it is more likely that they don't have social skills.

Me, I have about the same social skills as a turnip, and I'm really working on mine. He sounds like his is about the same as a peanut's.

Answer 2

It has been my experience that a lot of teachers are like that. Oftentimes the reason they can be such successful teachers is because they share a connection with their students due to their similar emotional level of maturity--although hopefully from a bit older and wiser view. However, there are others that are on a power trip. Basically, they don't really like children and take every opportunity to make the lives of their students miserable. Others are on an ego trip. They just want to talk about themselves and how great they are. Their students end that class knowing more about the teacher than the subject being taught.

I believe most teachers are dedicated individuals that really care about their students, and hope to reach out especially to the ones that "need" it, and that by the end of school year most of the students have benefited educationally from their classroom. Like any profession, you ill find "all kinds" of people.

I see some definite red flags in your marriage, so you will just have to remember his "good points" and why you love him, when your husband is driving you nuts. Ask him as a special favor to you, to lighten up on your daughter's eating habits. Maybe you could "fine" him a dollar each time he "forgets," and save the money to buy something special for your daughter.

Answer 3

No they never do. They are also from the planet Hypocrite where it cool to judge a whole person including intellectual ability based on one tiny thing.
I have worked in primary schools and had friends who were teachers. They were all the same, no matter what age. Even the head teachers are the same.
My daughter's nursery school had a culture that was really scary. The teachers were the most unprofessional I've come across yet. That was a church school.
I feel sorry for you!

Answer 4

I recently attended a wedding where the majority of the guests were teachers. I never met a more friendly and mature group of people in my life. They had a good time without getting drunk. There wasnt one argument and everybody behaved wonderfully. I'm talking about 60-80 people. We hadnt been aware of how many teachers were in the families until we started to compare notes. I've attended weddings that were nothing but drunken brawls. This one was pure joy.By the way, this wasnt just one day. We had the rehearsal dinner, brunch the next day, the wedding and a breakfast for everyone the next day. There was plenty of time to get to know everyone. I wish it could have lasted longer.

Answer 5

Exactly how old is he currently?

And I don't really think it's a "teacher" thing but more like a guy thing...they don't mature at the rate that we women do. I have an ex-husband that is 30 and still acts, in all ways possible, as if he's a teenager...I was more mature at 18 than he is right now...

Please don't mistake what I am saying as I'm not trying to say that it happens this way in all men because I know several men that are very mature and some at a young age.

Answer 6

This has nothing to do with his profession.

So what's wrong with you that you would marry someone like that? Don't you think about the personality of people you get engaged to?

Rubbish - I don't buy it for a second. I have yet to see a couple with marital problems where there weren't signs right from the beginning, unless it is a medical problem. People just choose to ignore those signs. If people weren't in such a rush to walk down the aisle or even just feel validated by being in a relationship - any relationship, this sort of thing wouldn't go on constantly.

Could you possibly miss the point more by trying to blame the teaching profession? Obviously you are not grown up enough to take responsibility for the fact that you CHOSE this guy. Deal with that, why don't you?

Answer 7

My wife is a teacher (private school, teaches 6 year olds), I now work with elderly people with Alzheimers after looking after my mother, grandmother and great aunt, all dead from cancer, dementia and Alzheimers. BUT for years I was also a teacher - I taught English, History and French up to A-level (18 years old). I really don't think that emotional immaturity is a common characteristic of teachers. I taught kids who had been expelled, badly treated, school refusers, kids who had been ill and had not had enough home tuition, Plymouth Brethren kids who could not be taught with anyone else, individual boys and girls with terrible psychological difficulties who could only be taught one-to-one, kids with ADHD who needed basic help with maths and English, older kids at 6th form college who just could not get to grips at all with A-level texts, you name it, I had it. But after 20 years I was exhausted. The only credit I have (and yes, I'm boasting) is that I worked my butt off to get all these kids through their GCSEs and A-levels with top passes, without exception. So no, teachers are very different, you are just very unfortunate, and I think you need to give your husband a complete bollocking.

Answer 8

This is strange because there are alot of good points here but I have noticed this phenomenon amongst teachers as well.

I worked with them and saw it on FE level then when I went for my own degree was quite blown away at doctors behaving like children. Enough that it is noticeable.

I do agree with the person who answered that surely you must have been aware of this aspect of his personality BEFORE you got married.

Answer 9

No, they did no longer ask. there replaced right into a sort of expectation we would marry, under no circumstances might desire to circulate out to paintings and have team to do each and every of the menial stuff. Cookery instructions? Needlework instructions? particular we would have somebody to "do all that" for us. It did no longer sound very eye-catching, and that i'm happy the certainty replaced into diverse.

Answer 10

Not all teachers are emotionally immature, just the one you're stuck with. That is his emotional problem, and it has nothing to do with every body in the profession.
Don't judge the whole based only on one example.