This guy was leading me on for a long time and making me feel like we were dating. He was asking me to go on trips with him and even talked about taking me to the Grand Canyon. Then someone mentioned that he had a girlfriend. At first I didn't believe them, but then I noticed that he was dragging out the whole scenario without any commitment, and he was sending me a ton of mixed signals. I started sending him short, abrupt little emails instead of the long, lingering ones he was used to. Then he went away on vacation. I stopped emailing altogether even for weeks after he was back home. Now things are very awkward. He is playing friendly and people are still making like we're on the brink of dating. But I know different. Should I tell him what I know? Should I cut if off, or resume our usual routine in hopes of some kind of confession? What on earth is the best way to handle this?
2007-08-15 03:20:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw I have no idea if it's true that he has a girlfriend. That could be a rumor or an attempt to ruin things. I'm just bringing it up.
2007-08-15 03:21:39 · update #1
I have helped many friends with the same problem. If you really love him I'm sure you have to speak to him. Or tell him that if he doesn't want to continue to be with you cut it off. You cant live with this if it hurts you. Tell the other people if you brake up to you broke up. I know that if you brake up it will hurt your heart but its the only way to do it. After all live is live... I dont believe that you will break up. If you want something too much the whole universe will plot to help you achieve it.
-Paulo Coelho-
Thats what a faous and wise writer said.
Good luck!!!!! (If he hurts you tell me and I will kick his ***)
2007-08-15 03:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him. Tell him you want the truth once and for all. Girl, do not let him push you around and treat you like some sort of convience toy. You deserve better. If it is true, that he has a girlfriend get rid of him. Don't even give him the time of day anymore. If he doesn't have a girlfriend, find out his true feelings for you and ask him where he wants to go with your relationship. Be careful, don't let him walk all over you. Good luck!
2007-08-15 03:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my mind be a grownup and go to this man, Tell him what you heard and how you feel about him telling you things and leading you on. Make sure he knows you are not taking it any more. Ask for the true and go from their. You could always stay friends if you want to but that is your call. But being up front and truth-full is the best way instead of running and always wondering.
2007-08-15 03:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by rani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to linger on with this question. The best way to approach this situation is to just confront him nicely. Saying, "I really like you, but I just wanted to know if you have a girlfriend?" Don't tell him someone told you he has a girlfriend because he might give you a negative response.
2007-08-15 03:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by dr. phillian here.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be blunt and tell him that you do not have time for the whole stop and go game he is playing. You can still talk to him and occasionally hang out but let him initiate contact. You could be putting a real meaningful relationship by trying to figure this guy out.
2007-08-15 03:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Neka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did people stop talking to each other?
Why is everyone so willing to play games with each other but no one will just ask a question that will make life so much easier?
"I heard that you have a girlfriend. Is that true, yes or no?"
End of all your worries.
2007-08-15 03:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is ask him outright "do you have a girlfriend?" then say you've been told he does!
Watch his body language, does he look away when he answers you, does he fidget with something, his hair, his ear, twiddle his thumbs. if he seems distracted when he answers he may not be telling you the whole truth. You need eye contact!
Or you could check with a friend of his who would tell you the truth.
Good luck...
2007-08-15 03:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out for sure if he has a girlfriend, I think she deserves to know what is going on. Even if he's not seeing someone else, is he the guy you want to be with.
2007-08-15 03:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by melissa g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it is a rumour or real. You need not worry about this. Even when you are eventually marry to him, you will still hear the same thing all over again.
If you love him. Love everythiong about him and be focused.
2007-08-15 03:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by rasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him truthfully. hopefully he will be a man and have the balls to tell you whats really going on.. if he says he does have a girlfriend and he's just been using you, then screw him.. hes not worth it. no girl deserves to be treated like that. if its not true, then lets hope you guys can get back to what you had before.
2007-08-15 03:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋