I'm so fed up of boys treating me with so little respect!! im a 16 year old girl growing up in 21st century ireland and am so fed up with the way boys treat me and my best friends!we are all pretty young girls and have good personalities towards life etc...so its not us that has the problem!me and best friend esecially got dragged in to hanging about with a gang of really charming fun young lads from where we live...I think the only mistake we made was becoming emotionally involved with them because if we had have just stayed friends i think things might have been different!but they used their charm on us to win us over and use us for things including sexual activity!many will criticise this i know but they made us feel so special...and we enjoyed the attention!of course they didnt want anything with commitment but we wernt to know this..we are still quite close to most of them but i cant help but feel hurt and used at times...but they dont seem to notice this..why do fellas do this?!
2007-08-15 03:06:19 · 23 answers · asked by lil Miss Irish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow.....never seemed so serious when i was 16, whatever happened to just enjoying life?
2007-08-15 03:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ladies and young ladies i am shocked at how acceptable you feel it is to put out so easily as if handing out party hats, what happened to having enough self respect that you don,t wish to be called an easy lay or a tandem .
O.K you have to start learning sooner or later but in 5 years time those lads will be looking for wives and you husbands do you really want them to remember you as an easy lay or any bodies tandem . There is a golden rule men don,t marry the girls they play with , or would you really want to marry a man who has nailed every girl he could for the previous 5 years and some of your girl friends , no wonder there are so many "STD,s" around .
2007-08-15 11:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's face it ; guys need ego.
you were availible to them.
maybe they did like you a lot but at the end of the day, they did use you. you gave them sexual favours and that was humiliating because you have now realised how you acted may have been inappropriate. but the thing is, the haven't done anything to you because you are all still friends.
my advice is leave these guys alone. find a guy YOURSELF without the help of groups, because in groups there is always a triangle. this happened to me, i became friendly with two guys, both liked me and i had to chose.
if you can, go out yourself, find a boy and focus on him. you don't have to introduce your friends to him until the relationship is becoming quite serious.
don't let yourself get hurt again.
good luck love hannah xx
PS. i'm the same age as you, and from scotland, but i spend the whole summer in ireland every year. and from what i have seen this year and every year before, ireland's not short of talent =P. x
2007-08-15 10:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by kate * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you say they dragged you into it, then you say they used their charms to win you over, then you say you wanted to do it because it made you feel special.
We all make choices to do the things we do and think the way that we think. They didn't make you do anything, you chose to do those things, then didn't like the consequences of your choice later. If you're going to try to justify your part in it by saying you only did those things because of your age and that you were confused, then you can apply that to the boys also as the reasons they did what they did.
Take responsibility for the choices you make and the actions you take. Quit trying to place the blame on others when things don't turn out as you would like them to have.
2007-08-15 10:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm already 19 going 20 this year. I know already what guys are really like. When I was at your age, I was also in love with a man who was 5 years older than me and I became emotionally attached yet he never really loved me. In reality, we should accept that guys are really like that. If girls put meaning on having sex, guys just think of sex as a game. Guys tend to enjoy playing especially at your age. They tend to talk about sex then later on will tell you things about sex that include you in the picture meaning they will tell you that they want to have sex with you. They are really not attach with their emotions unless they are really in love with the girl. If I were you, the best way to deal with it is not to be emotional and act as if you don't care. There's nothing wrong of being a liberated girl because it's your choice. You don't have to care what guys will think about you but just make sure that you will not let yourself get involved emotionally so that you'll not be hurt.
2007-08-15 10:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by sweetchik234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are too young to be involved with any one sexually.
If you want a man to respect you, you have to have respect for your self. If you are doing things with these boys and you dont know how to say no then they will know that they can probably get away with anything with you. If say no when they want to do something that involves sex then they will probably have more respect for you.
If your friends do sexual things with any of the other friends and expect you to do the same then they are not good friends and you dont need people like that as friends.
2007-08-15 10:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by latingirl2222 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW, what baggage!
If you did not know what teenage boys wanted, then you must have been living in a fish-bowl.
I chat alot online and loads of tenns are sexually active from 14+ so.
If you enjoyed it at the time, but now want to change your attitude towards it, then thats fine.
If the guys get moody and abusive, then they are not worth knowing.
PS sexual relationships at your age, for girls, are best carried uot with other girls only, so to avoid pregnancy!
2007-08-15 10:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by digitalukboy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put it down to experience & across time you'll learn from it positively - in a non condescending way you have hardly began life at the moment but like I say, you'll be fine once you comprehend experience(s) & remembering the above should stop you turning into Deirdre the man hater from the Sun newspaper etc.
Remember, the school of life is the best education there is.
2007-08-15 10:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by clubkid_03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would have done better just Left these people alone you made the choice to allow these people to take advantage of you. now you have to deal what the consequences and the damage this has cause you in your life. You are young and will get over this. don't sit around feeling sorry for your self move on. Best of luck
2007-08-15 10:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At sixteen are your really looking for commitment? Have fun, enjoy life and complete your education. Live for the pleasure of now, forget the bad experiences and carry the good ones into your old age even if your lovers are long gone by morning.
2007-08-15 11:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are too young to have these kind of problems and more to that you have been sexually active with them which could destroy your life at an early stage.My best advice to you is that you should focus more on your goals and finishing your studies because these boy seem to be not interested in you.Take my advice or else.....!!!
2007-08-16 06:27:03 · answer #11 · answered by lungi ndlovu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋