I was divorced out of the family at 1 1/2. I do not want a "reunion". It's been rough, and all anybody knows is my hard times, when my father's mouth opens up to them. He's not even all that close to his 12 !!!! siblings and their kids. And I don't know a thing about them anymore. But they invite me for his sake, because he always asks if I got one in the mail. Well, it makes me cry, but they're a clique-y bunch, and there's no point trying. If it were my fault I was never comfortable with them in the first place, I'd say I need to deal, but I was caught in the wave of mother's fierce insistence on loyalty. You know what? I just don't belong, and I'm crying. How can I get them to "leave me alone already", but without putting it that way?
2007-08-15 02:53:22 · 3 answers · asked by starryeyed 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK, twenty mintues and I'm done being selfish. Maybe I should send a card wishing them well instead.
2007-08-15 03:22:03 · update #1
politely decline the invitations, and move on with your life.
i'm sure you have painful feelings, hence the crying. it's ok to cry.. but don't cry because you are feeling guilty about others...
do what is best for YOU... look around, everyone else does what is best for them!! your turn.
2007-08-15 03:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be upfront and honest with them. Tell them that it is too painful for you to be included in such family functions and will not attend. Ask them to stop making the invitations out of respect for your feelings.
2007-08-15 03:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't go to weddings or reunions unless you're lavished with gifts. If they want you there, you will happily send them a list and no cheap stuff is allowed.
2007-08-15 03:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋