Guys are not wired to be monogamous : What's your take?

Question

I dont know if I agree, I really hope that is not the case....

Answer 1

I really don't think it's true because there are plenty of men who are perfectly happy with one woman. I think most of the problem come from poor decision making. Some women trying to force guys into a long term relationship or guys just doing it for all the wrong reasons. Basically sometimes all the signs are there that it just wasn't meant to be but people ignore them.

For the record I'm a one woman kinda guy! :)

Oh yeah this question can be applied to women too! There are a lot of them that don't seem to know how to stay with one man!

Answer 2

There's a different between what's fact and what's morally correct. Men were made to instinctively procreate... And I'm not entirely sure why people haven't figure this one out yet.

And having sex isn't just about loving someone people, because there are plenty of guys that could have casual sex with random women without the emotional attachment. Which leads me to believe that men probably cheat for physical satisfaction, not because they don't love that person... All in all, cheating is still wrong.. However, some guys are capable of overcoming their base instincts.

No humans, male or female, are "wired" to think about commitment. Society forces that on people. While I believe committment is a positive thing, its not something automatically entered into the human brain. It takes conditioning of the mind to get people into this idea.

PinkLemur: Lol, don't forget that there are women who cheat as well. What you don't seem to get is that women are not automatically programmed to want committment. Anyone who believes so doesn't understand human nature. Its human nature to want to satisfy physical needs, sex being one of those needs. Women are similar to men, the only difference is how society intervenes, and portrays women to be a certain way, just as with men. Committment is a LEARNED behavior. Try taking psychology or something...

Answer 3

If you want to get technical, no living thing on this earth is wired to be monogamous, with the exception of penguins of course, but it's instinct for them.

So, without any rules telling us that it's wrong, neither men nor women would be with one person the rest of their lives, unless they felt such a great love for one another that no other person satisfied them effectively.

I do not believe that men are programmed to have many partners. They have the choice, which is what sets humans apart from common beasts.

In the end, I suppose that I have to conclude that men just love sex too much to be with one person all the time. Not all men are like that, but plenty of them are, and until it changes, the stereotype stays put. Sorry guys, but you brought this upon yourselves.

Answer 4

Well I don't know if you believe in evolution but assuming you do consider this. Early humans would have died off easily. The human female takes nine months to deliver what is almost always a single offspring. She is only feritle a few days a month. Early humans were prey to disease and predators. All this adds up to a human male having to be able to mate with many female partners on a very consistent basis just to try to ensure the survival of the species. Of course in modern society none of this applies anymore and we have developed social structure and relationships however the instinct and early traits of a human male to some degree still exist....mate or die would be the primative command....just a thought

Answer 5

depends on there upbringing (along with many other factors), my husband was raised very old fashioned and solely believes in monogamous relationships. Not all guys are the same. To each his own i guess, neither would be considered a bad choice in my opinion, it is whatever works for the individual.

Answer 6

ive heard this before, but i think it really just comes down to the person and how they feel about the person theyre with. Its not just guys who cheat in relationships, chicks do too.Like i said, its very situational but no, i dont think guys are wired or not wired to be monogomous. When a person's ready to commit, thats their own choice, and if they really love that person than they have to work it out, when they have problems they should try to talk and resolve them or settle things before anyone gets hurt.

Answer 7

I disagree, some men will do it with anything and anyone, while some (and i have alot of male friends) will not and have not cheated. I would say it depends on if they are a real man or a little boy living in a mans body. Some men grow up and mature while others will never grow up.

Answer 8

...I believe all genders of individuals are wired to be UN-MONOGAMOUS occasionally........cause I have just recently been served up the SECOND most UNMONOGAMOUS most unbelievably disconnected woman of my life seriously. She's been gone now since November.....thank goodness! How painful and miserable she became for herself and me too. I hope she's getting better up there in DULUTH peaceably. All I ever wanted was her gifted happiness....not her moments of self created dissatisfaction honestly. How horrible it must be to have to live with unreasonable amounts of self induced high anxiety and depression really?.......it had me feeling helpless in the thoughts of calming her down a little bit anyways! She'll have to fix herself alternatively....cause I couldn't in doing it for her unfortunately......but I'll accept the blame for our misfortunes really....(we both chose each other equally) cause our stuff ended up becoming in her mind my fault unwittingly. My apologies go out to her and her behaviors for ever thinking I could be with her completely........how unnerving......Sorry babe! I still love ya anyways.....unconditionally.....it can't be helped unfortunately......unless YOU want it to......cool?

Answer 9

People lie to themselves. That's a lie. Men are just dumb or addicted. Emotion rule logic, Check out Emotional Intellligence in one of these free ebooks at trans4mind It'll trans4m you life.

Answer 10

Nope. They aren't.

That's bad news if you are trying to base your entire relationship around sex. However, if you build a strong life together by satisfying his emotional needs, and helping him to satisfy you, there's a chance the relationship will work out anyway.