Wedding Thank You?

Question

Is it okay to thank people for wedding and shower gifts in the same thank you card..... I had some people send them at same time, etc. Thanks in advance

to clarify - my shower thank you's were sent out a week after the shower.

and to Cheryl V - how in the world did you just interpret that I'm ungrateful? That was a big assumption and inaccurate. If you look at the question I asked it asks about people who sent shower gifts at same time as the wedding.. The etc is for people who sent shower gifts long after the shower was over and one week before the wedding. Assuming someone is going to write thank you notes the week before the wedding is unselfless of the giver. If you're angry about
something than go answer someone else question or get therapy.

Answer 1

Yes. IMO it is ridiculous to send out separate ones when the shower and wedding are close together. Thank them for both in one card. I would find it odd to receive two separate thank yous for the gifts.

Answer 2

It depends on the relative timing of the shower and wedding. If they were only a few weeks apart, then go ahead and send a single note thanking the giver for both gifts.

However, if the shower was six weeks before the wedding, and you are just now getting around to giving thanks for those shower gifts, you know darn well you have goofed and need to know how to rectify this.

You can do this with "polite fiction". Write a good TY note for the wedding gift, then add a PS offering apologies if they did not receive your previous TY note for "the lovely salad spinner" -- in all the excitement of the upcoming wedding, you seem to have send some notes to incorrect addresses. You will know this is a fabrication, and so will they, but in the interests of everyone getting along, everyone will pretend that it is true.

Answer 3

You need to send 2 one for the shower gift and one for the wedding. They took the time and money to give you 2 gifts take the extra 10 minutes and write a second thank you card. I sent out the shower thank you cards after the shower and the wedding thank you cards went out after the honeymoon.

Answer 4

Two events, two presents, two thank yous. The thank-you cards for the shower gifts should have been sent out no later than two weeks following the shower, and wedding gifts should be acknowledged within two weeks if received before the wedding, or within a month of returning from your honeymoon if received at the wedding.

Answer 5

Thank them with one card. If they send shower gifts late or at the same time as a wedding gift, then I'm sure they will understand.

Answer 6

If the gifts were sent at the same time, I see no reason you can't thank them in one note.

However, DO NOT wait until after your wedding to write your shower thank-you's. Seriously, if people were willing to take time out of their Sunday to attend your shower (and bring you a gift!), that deserves a thank-you. Several weeks later, they then made the effort to attend your wedding and celebrate with you (and bring another gift!), that should also be acknowledged separately.

Answer 7

Honestly, I don't know the protocol on this. But I will tell you, that I'm just glad when someone bothers to acknowledge the gift at all anymore. Seems like anymore few people even bother. I'd be good if you sent me one thank you for both, as long as you mentioned both gifts in the card.

Answer 8

No, they should be done with separte cards, sent separately. Do the shower cards right after the shower, then the wedding thank yous as soon as possible after the wedding.

Answer 9

You can if both gifts were sent at same time from same person.I personally am not a card person so send me one and I'm good Two of them I feel you wasted your money.These people on try to be so etiquette correct it's a joke! nowadays you do how you like it & don't worry about what is so called "correct" You are still you even if your having a wedding so if in your normal everyday life would you send two cards for two gifts from the same person probably not so be yourself and enjoy it all!!

Answer 10

I wrote my shower and wedding gifts together. Some people that came to the wedding didn't come to the shower. Also some people that came to the shower didn't make it for the wedding.