My ex boyfriend dumped me by text message 3 months ago then only last week he text me to say he was seeing someone else now he really didnt need to because i wouldnt have seen him out and about anyway its like as if he is trying to hurt me as much as he can. When i called him about this text he put me on loudspeaker in front of his friends and said he would only speak to me like that i was so humiliated and upset, he is 29 years of age and i am 23 i wouldnt dream of doing that to someone. I feel so very hurt and depressed that someone who wanted to marry me, tattoed my initial onto themselves and was so crazy about me when we were dating turn so nasty against me. We had been dating for 8 months and it was very serious then out of the blue he didnt want me. Only a week beforehand he had wanted me to marry him and said he loved me all the time. Now he cant even be bothered to know i even exist. How do i get over this im very hurt and have lost so much weight from it? please help?
2007-08-15 01:30:06 · 34 answers · asked by bluebell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry you're hurting, but just thank your lucky stars you found out in time what a jerk this guy really is!
You could have married him, and had a couple of children, before he decided he'd had enough, and dumped you then. How much worse would that have been.
Tell yourself you've had a narrow escape, and move forward & find a man who REALLY loves you, not just plays cruel games.
He needs to grow up.
2007-08-15 01:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u done anything wrong before or did u guys had a fight or something?..if not..then it's not your fault..i'm very sorry to hear about your heartache..i know it hurts so much..but u should accept the fact that he's over u..n u should move on too. I don't understand why he's trying to torture u like that..it's either he's trying to make u hate him because he's got some personal problem..or simply because he just wants to play with your feelings and show his friends how "great" he is to have a girl who's head over heels for him even after he dumped her. no offense.. If he just wants to play with you then you're better off without him. u should remind yourself that if u stay with this guy, u won't get the loving tender care that u deserve n u'll end up getting hurt again n again. there are other guys out there who would appreciate u and love u for who u are.u're still young anyways..plus u said he's 29..a 29 year-old guy should be mature enough not to humiliate other people especially his ex-gf (unless the ex was extra cruel or mean to him..i guess)..u should go and find someone better. that's the only advice i can give. don't let him bring u down...show that u can live without him..move on..there's no use crying over someone who's not worth it
2007-08-15 01:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by hitori_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are losing weight from being upset, then you need to see your doctor about it, pronto! I am dead serious about it. That is your first step.
In any case, you are a lucky woman! Your ex is obviously a conceited, immature, idiotic, sadistic jerk. He is hurting you because he is unworthy of your love. HE is the loser here. Not you. He did you a favor by showing you his true self so that you could get away from him. One day he will do the same thing to the next girl he dates, and eventually he will be alone and humiliated himself, because no one will be his friend or love. You are much better off without him.
Want to get back at him? Ignore him. Rebuild your life. Keep yourself busy. Hang out with your friends. Get some exercise. EAT! Join a club or do some volunteer work in your community. Move on with your life, find happiness, and never let him see you down. If you ever do run into him, tell him how awesome life is without him, and then just walk away from him. Why would you even want to bother to know HE exists. He is not worthy of your attention. You deserve better.
If he keeps texting you, call the cops and ask them to give you a restraining order to stop him. He'll get the picture. He is out of your life now, and if he keeps doing this, it will constitute stalking in most places.
Good luck!
2007-08-15 01:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. This boy (that's what he is even though he's 29) is just another male idiot! Some men seem to get a kick out of hurting women. It's time to move on, get dressed up and go out, have a great time you deserve it. Don't contact him to ask why he'll take it as a sign of weakness and use it against you. Make a massive change in your life, find a new job, get a new hobby something you've always wanted to do bet never had the nerve, we've all got them. Even move to a new area, somewhere you've always wanted to live. It all sounds a bit scary but is very exciting.
Good luck, feel better.
2007-08-15 01:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing this because he has a mental maturity somewhere in the low teens. He enjoys embarrassing and humiliating you. He doesn't understand the nature of love, nor dignity. He's a loser, the technical term being "jerkwad." Be glad you didn't commit to him legally.
Block him from your life in every way possible. Don't take his calls, texts, emails, etc. Go about your life as if he never existed. There are good guys are there, I promise (he's not one of them), but you won't find them staying home being depressed about this guy's behavior.
Get back out there. Do things you enjoy, alone or with friends. Help somebody less fortunate--the need for volunteers never goes away. Take a class, or pursue a hobby. You meet new people not by looking for them but by doing what you want to do.
2007-08-15 01:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you are worth so much more than this. The man is an idiot, plain and simple and you have had a lucky escape.
Not only did he not have the guts to dump you face to face, he then tries basically to find out if you've got over him yet by hurting your feelings even more.
He's a moron. You will find someone better soon enough. Eat properly though - no point in being ill over a waste of space like him, is there?
2007-08-15 01:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nexus6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just done the dumping because my b/f became physical and mental abuse - it still hurts the same, he dotted on me, wanted children with me, marrage - then did what he did!!!!
You have to get your hair done - meet up with an old friend for a really nice dinner and few beers in a nice pub, meeting new people and SMILE!!! It will be his loss, and in a few weeks - when he bumps into you looking so fab, he'll wonder what he did!! Then you'll have the great satisfaction of saying - I'D RATHER NOT THANKS!!!! You go girl, and enjoy yourself!!!! I am and its great!!! Its been a couple of weeks for me and i feel so much better than i did!! It won't take you long i promise!!!
Good luck, and spoil yourself!!!
2007-08-15 01:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by jenny w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hurt you like that because hes a jerk! Ignore him dont answer his calls, texts, and dont call him!. I know its gonna hurt alot for awhile but it will be best. By all means keep busy hang out with friends, go clubbing, out to dinner, or just hang with family (sometimes their the best after a breakup) After you gotten over the pain start seeing some1 else. And I gurantee you his dumb *** will come back to you, they always do. After that itll be your decision if you wanna take him back. Now you'll have the power to treat him accordingly. Believe me this new girl is temporary and he only wants to have fun and embarass you but dont let it get to you. Because sooner or later he'll have an empihany and realize that you were/are a good chick. Take care!
2007-08-15 01:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by CLEETERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. His behavior speaks louder than any of his words from before. Keep dating other guys and with time you'll feel better. The best way to get over things is when you can reach terms of acceptance with the situation. you don't have to like a situation, but there's times where theres nothing you can do but accept it or not accept it and continue suffering. Accept that he's not the guy you thought he was, he doesn't want to be with you and he's a jerk who should've been much more considerate.
2007-08-15 01:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by kyryliw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you had a lucky escape. Obviously won't feel like it at the moment but think about it. Does a tw*t like that really deserve to even breath the same air as you? I mean dumping someone by text for starters - yeah very big of him. Then texting you again to announce he's found someone else - good luck to her. Then acting big infront of him friends - that ain't a man.
2007-08-15 01:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy Mac 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋