Who should apologize first?

Question

My bf lives in the US & I live in Europe. We haven't met in a while & I really miss him.
Last month when I was on holiday, 1 of the guys we were hanging out with kissed me. I didn't kiss him back, I just told him that I love my bf & that was it.
Yesterday my bf asked me if "anything" happned when I was on holiday. I told him about that stupid kiss and he sounded really upset. It wasn't my fault really, but I apologized to him for making him feel bad.
Then he told me that a girl kissed him in the party his friend organized last week. I went mad. Then he said he was kidding, he just wanted to pay it back to me, to make me understand how he feels.
I hung up on him & he didn't call back. I don't know if he was kidding or that was true. Did I do a mistake by telling him about that kiss? Should I apologize to him, or should I wait for him to apologize 4 making me feel so bad?
Thanks

Answer 1

I'm in a long distance relationship. If my bf tells me a girl kissed him, I'll go nuts. If she kisses him and he doesnt tell me then theres a real communication problem.
Try to understand how he felt which is $*$*#)
So call him. Tell him you understand but though you knew it would hurt him you didn't want to keep aything from him because you care too much. Tell him how much he means to you. Listen to what he says.
You're in a long distance relationship, its more than normal to go all nuts because the tension.
Good luck. Wish me the same. Im still new in this LDR thing

Answer 2

Apologize to him. In true love, there is no reason to pride yourself. Sometimes you have to forego this vengeful feeling to let the better relationship become stronger. Since both of you are far from each other, it is expected that there will be abrasive circumstances that would come along the way, no matter how small can be, but can just flare up to be magnified to the extent that separation seem to be the ultimate action at hand. It is only a matter of understanding issues. Don't tell me that yout boyfriend is exercisng celibacy wherever he is now.
But you live in this pretense, which is somewhat unrealistic. So, if there will be news like the one which came out of him, as a confession, be ready to face it in such a way that you maintain that certain kind of loving relationship which you can give him, allowance of understanding. On your part, be more careful when going out, especially with the friends of your boyfriend. Perhaps, the reason why you told him that was that you are afraid that the news will reach him earlier even before you got the chance to tell it to him. Anyway, that is beside the point-apologize,bond more to him, and be more realistically adult inyour relationships with people- whether they are your friends, neighbors, etc.

Answer 3

No, you did the right thing by telling him. If you can't share this with your boyfriend and move on, then you two are simply not meant to be together. The fact that you blew up on him because he claimed he did the same thing, however, suggests that you may not being fair in this relationship. You expected him to understand you, but then you didn't do the same. Honestly, given that fact and the fact that long distance relationships rarely work, I don't think I would call you back if I were him. I am not so sure he had anything to apologize for. Sorry!

Answer 4

You did the right thing by being honest and telling him straight away. It was wrong for him to tell you that a girl kissed him if it wasn't true, but if it was true it sounds like he didn't intend to tell you anyway. Long distance relationships are very difficult to keep together, you need to keep the communication flowing otherwise it will go wrong very quickly. You could try phoning him and asking him to explain himself, but remember that any bad feelings created between the 2 of you will be amplified by the fact that you haven't seen each other for so long.

Answer 5

The more mature person will always apologize first.

If he wasn't joking, didn't kiss the girl back like you didn't kiss the guy back then fair's fair.
If he was joking then that is a bit mean but maybe you did need to experience his same feelings to understand how he was feeling after you told him about the guy.

The best thing to do is the hardest thing to do. You be the one that has the power to get over it and simply apologize.

Answer 6

Lol. Talk about double standards. You said your kiss was stupid and expected him to be ok but as soon as the shoe was on the other foot, you went ballistic.

You should apologize first. He wanted you to understand how it feels to know some tramp kissed your S.O. and now that you understand, the next time some dude leans in for a kiss, slap the sh*t out of him.

Answer 7

You told him about the kiss, trying to keep it an honest open relationship. He apparently didn't like the way you reacted to his reaction, so to teach you a lesson he says the same thing happens and you flip out? You should both apologize. Him for playing such a stupid and childish prank, and you for flipping out on him. Say it was real, why is it OK for you to flip out, but not for him to? Honestly, with the way things are, it doesn't seem like either of you can handle having a long distance relationship.

Answer 8

Apologise is the British version of make an apology. Grammatically the two are incredible. It completely relies upon on your u . s . of residency. it is particularly unhappy which you have been criticized as a results of fact the two varieties are truthfully ideal.

Answer 9

u sould. there is no fault on him
u should have maintained ur distance with that guy who kissed u.to fool u was the least he could do to get revenge.
go apologise before its too late

Answer 10

How can you be upset? You two need to work on your communication skills and your tempers.