We have been living together since almost a year and I asked him to marry me and he said as soon as he retires he will be ready,because I should not have to wait that long to be engaged I dont know what that meant(he will be retired in a year) but if he is so sure why does he have to wait aleast to be engaged I asked him that to he responed the same he didnt wan me to wait that long.Our age difference is 12 years different. I have one kid it is not his but he let me move in.I have noticed in the last couple of weeks he has not been looking me in the eyes as much.He spends money on me is that maybe because he thinks he is buying me to stay into this relationship.DO you think he loves me from my info and maybe will be ready for marriage and am I ready maybe a little to soon?
2007-08-15 01:23:48 · 5 answers · asked by confused28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Also how can I tell if he is happy?I know every man is different but there are some signs that show.
2007-08-15 01:36:39 · update #1
Truthfully, I think you should move out. You are too available, so he doesn't have to marry you.
If you move out and he pursues you, then you know he is interested. You can then discuss moving back in, after a wedding has taken place . . . of course!
If you move out and he does not pursue you, then you know he is not interested in marrying you.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-15 01:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is completely and utterly impossible to say whether or not he will be ready for marriage from the info you provide here. That's the honest truth. No one here can read his mind. He said what he said, and only you know if he is an honest man. If he is retiring in a year and said he will marry you then, then you basically have to decide whether or not you are willing to wait that long. It is as simple as that. In any case, the fact that he is not looking in your eyes as much doesn't necessarily mean anything. Maybe he is stressed out. Maybe you are pushing him away by not trusting him. Maybe he is just getting comfortable with your relationship. Or maybe you are even right. All I know is that he told you how he felt, so you know. It is up to you to decide whether or not that is good enough for you. Only you can make that decision. Good luck!
2007-08-15 01:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your relationship? you say you have been living together a year and that he "let" you move in, with your son. nobody on here who doesn't know the man can tell you if he lovs you because we don't know him, just going b what you are saying you asked him to marry you, he might not be ready right now.
2007-08-15 01:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Angela F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him and ask him what is going on? Tell him that you love him very much and if you do not want the same things you are going to have to go your own way. It is not fair to you if he really never wants to marry.
2007-08-15 01:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does but just does not know how to show it.But I'm still a little confused about your question.
2007-08-15 01:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋