I hear lots of people complain about others insulting them. Why is it that when it comes to me, people call me immature & try to avoid me? Everyone has feelings that get hurt. Why don't I have a right to feel hurt without being called immature?
2007-08-15 00:55:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There's this notion that if you're able to have your feelings hurt, you are childish. Adults are not supposed to show their feelings or let people get to them. I think that mentality is immature.
All people have feelings, regardless of age. And feelings can be hurt. A person who doesn't respect your feelings and your right to feel however you want is insensitive. As someone with very fragile feelings, I try to stay away from people who will hurt them. There are those who call me immature and to them I say, "Go ahead." If being mature means I have to have the emotive ability of a robot, I don't want it.
You have every right to feel however you want. It doesn't measure your level of maturity. No, maturity is measured by how you act in your day to day life and by decisions that you make.
2007-08-15 01:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Avie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to feel hurt without being called immature.
What is mature is the ability to recognize uncalled for cruelty and just plain meanness. People who just blow it off, are the immature ones. It is immature not to care that generally many people in the world love to insult and call others names. Shouldn't we be hoping for a better world?
2007-08-15 05:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And like you and I'm also that people was calling me an immature because they always to teased me and they want to insulting on me and I guess of their attitude and rather say they want to hurting with an innocent person and I know you can feel a offended and very painful inside your heart.I'll give you an advice you should try to avoiding with them and you should to ignored with them when they having a joking or teasing on you and you should having a new friends.I think that some people are they won't to accept it of what we will have it and being an insecure of what we will have and what they not have it.
2007-08-15 01:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fid the person doing the insulting to be more immature than the one who is being insulted. It's not immature to have your feelings hurt--you're human! Just try to keep things in perspective and take the insult for what it's worth...NOTHING. You just have to try to get to a point where you don't get affected by other peoples' words because you feel good about yourself. I know it can still be painful sometimes, though, but just know the good things about yourself and forget the negative things they have to say. Maybe they're just jealous. Keep your head up.
2007-08-15 01:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not immature, but you have trained yourself to worry. As a baby you were taken care of and your worries were not to be resolved by you. Even now, similarly, you go to sleep every night and wake up. Some of the hours are well spent -- in deep relaxation. Otherwise, you wouldn't be awake -- your body getting enough relaxation is the only way you remain awake and properly function. So, you need to find a solution to deal with your feelings during the day time. So, find it!
2007-08-15 01:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Don't mind them- they're inconsiderate when it comes to how you feel. It's not good to insult others and it hurts a lot when people insult you so just be a good person and avoid negative and mean people.
2007-08-15 02:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by primandproper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but that can be annoying to have to deal with someone who is so sensitive. Maybe they are calling you immature because of your actions after your feeling are hurt? I don't know. Or maybe they are on a roll about hurting your feelings, so they call you immature too. Look at your actions, and if they are immature, you can counter them, but if not than just let it go.
2007-08-15 01:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont think your immature for feeling hurt about others insulting you,but honestly its not doing you any good to worry over that,when people do that to me,i actually kinda feel sorry for them because they obviously have their own issues,but i dont let them get in my head like that and cause me to stress,noones worth all that.
2007-08-15 01:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by tx_rainbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not immature so much. You just have to deal with it in some way, either insult them back; or better, find a a reply that dismisses their callous remarks. Look at who's doing it to you, maybe find some new friends.
2007-08-15 01:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Blah Blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the method used to harass/insult.
More often than not it can be dismissed as a "their problem not mine", BUT I've had Bigots making false complaints to the authorities - some just misguided well meaning folks others just from malicious, pigheadedness.
It's VERY difficult to protect oneself from that kind of immature prattish attacks.
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2007-08-15 01:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rai A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋