a bad reputaion has tainted the way I am perseived or treated yet I am not being made aware of those who have started something.
EG my roomate after a year tells me about someone who said something bad a year ago or so (before my roomy and I met). Yet never told me and watched me befriends with this person who I thought was my friend. What goes on in the minds of people that I can not see nor change. HOw can I continue to be the free spirit I am when I am missing the signs. Ok that was more than one question.
2007-08-15 00:47:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hi and thanks for answering. The story above is only an example. I am simply seeing the results of this sort of thing and it affects my life. I am looking for answers to help me cope.
2007-08-15 02:11:52 · update #1
You must dust these thoughts from your mind, they have no place ~ your memories and experiences with this friend were real despite something they said some other time. They would probably regret it, and apologize if you brought it to this persons attention, but, rather let it go, and maybe try and figure out how you could have gave this negative impression off and then you'll know what do ~ it will come naturally ~ and things will play out the way they do, focus on the positive~future~outlook of such a situation, knowing it was not final, nothing really is other then past experiences then its our job to put them in an order that's works best for you, everyone around you, and everything else for that matter.
I hope I have helped you cope somewhat =)
2007-08-15 13:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by 123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your room mate may have decided a year ago that the rumours were nonsense, so never made a comment about them.
If she has told you lately, the question I would ask is why? Have you suddenly become closer to the person your room mate says spread rumours about you?
If that is the case, perhaps your room mate is trying to warn you to be careful of this person.
As for not telling you, I think that is a difficult call. Perhaps she thought the rumour was stupid and unbelievable, and assumed others also would?
At any rate, by not reacting to it for a year you certainly stopped it in its tracks!
Frankly, why worry about what others think, if you know you have not done anything to be criticised for, that is enough ~ you say you are a free spirit, well do not let others pull you down with their petty and hurtful games.
By ignoring them and refusing to even acknowledge their nonsense, you show your contempt for their behaviour and your own strength of character!
Best wishes and good luck :-)
2007-08-15 08:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're not sure, talk to the person you think started these rumors who you say is now your friend. If she admits it, then go from there. As far as what was said, try not to let the rumor become you. You can't waste your time trying to prove yourself to people, especially people who would talk about you without knowing you first. So continue being the free spirit that you are and don't give people any reason to talk badly about you. Then you know anything that's said about you is false and you can still go on being yourself which is the most important thing.
2007-08-15 08:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember, what comes around goes around.
Kharma does not forget.
2007-08-15 08:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by cwfl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your question is very confusing. you might try reading it and thinking about what you are trying to ask. you may find the answer to the question you meant to ask this way.
2007-08-15 07:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by 1oldone 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well unknowingly you proved
them wrong.
Forget it, and move on.
2007-08-15 07:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it and don't get competitive with other girls.
2007-08-15 07:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋