This girl in my batch hardly talks 2 any boy in batch. Studies made us talk sometimes. She had a BF then. Smtime l8r we became frens dat was1.5yr back. Then after smtime she had a breakup its been 1 yr now. Reasons not known but dat was a healthy break up. Tho i liked her a lot but just been frens. 6 mnths later i started givin her hints that i m interested, showin my care 4 her, 2 mnths further i told her dat i care 4 her & trust her a lot . she replied that she trusts me 2, but ferns dnt need 2 talk daily. throughout this time it was me who used to call her evrytime weekly. Tho she was very welcoming bt nvr made a call herself. thn down the line i smhw told her my liking 4 her. She gave me hint that she dsnt wanna hav BF yet & her family is very orthodox. I appreciated her a lot for her trust in me to tell me all that. Then i started calling her frequently every alternate day. she seemed comfortable with that 2. But she still nvr takes an initiative. Any advice how 2 carry it furthe
2007-08-15 00:01:03 · 8 answers · asked by Aryan K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't "make" her fall in love with you, either she does or she doesn't. Her choice to do so isn't entirely up to you.
2007-08-15 00:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, if a guy just backs off, a girl will then wonder "Was it me?" and try to get the attention back, maybe rethinking about the guy as a "possibility". I'm a bit confused on what you're saying about "batches" and orthodox-is her family Jewish? And are you not? It may be then that her family has drilled it into her that she should only end up with another Jewish guy, and if you're not, then she has to quell any feelings she could have for you other than friendship. Honestly, though, what are you more concerned with here? Her feelings, your feelings or your friendship? Because if you continue to pressure her about how you feel, she's going to feel like you don't respect her wishes and then your friendship is going to fall apart. If she had a break up some time ago, maybe she just wasn't ready for a relationship at that time either, so maybe she just wants to take her time in growing up and appreciate the friendships she has. How old are you guys? It sounds like early high school. Maybe if you mention to her that you're interested in another girl or you think another girl is pretty, then she'll start to show more interest. If she tells you to go for it, then you need to give up on her, hon. If she's not ready for a relationship with you or with anyone else, it's just not gonna happen unless it's on HER terms. You can't MAKE someone fall in love with you if they're not interested in being in love at the moment.
2007-08-15 10:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasnt responded by now, it doesnt seem like shes very interested. Sorry, you cant make her like you any more than you already have. You have done as much as possible, nothing more you can do.
2007-08-15 07:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by bridgette.dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be afriad get out there and ask her.. are you intrested in me?. cause You are loving her right?
Or she could be putting you in the friend zone
Or You should probably back off..and be a sholder to cry on..
or
FLowers candy. flowers, phone cal, floweres, date, Flowers movie.....flowers. Ask, flowers ...and go on from there
2007-08-15 07:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to speak English for one.
2007-08-15 07:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by SheRa 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Can't you be sober and limited like her? Do it and she will continue otherwise no hope.
2007-08-15 07:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol tell her you have money...love can't be forced it has to happen on it's own to mean anything.
2007-08-15 07:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by cosmo_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue what you are doing, girls are easy to persuade.
2007-08-15 07:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by ihavechopsticksinmyhair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋