Been thru a divorce 2 1/2 yrs ago. Thought I would spend the rest of my life with him....but i wasn't happy with the way he was treating me. Never physical, but mentally. He recently had a child and I can't stop being emotional ! What is wrong with me ??? I never took anti-depressants and I'm trying to run/exercise more. Is this normal ? Will i ever get over this ?
2007-08-14 23:37:43 · 5 answers · asked by Tropical 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
well, you miss and love him, because it wasn't you who ruined the marriage...it was him..don't take the pills, start trying to accep the fact that he is with somone else, and start taking good care of yourself...let some other really nice person find you ...but in the meantime,...be as strong as you can, be happy for him, no matter how much that hurts you...I have a feeling, that someone else, who is going to be far better for you, is waiting just around the corner,..remember, God never closes a door, without opening a window..and I think you are going to see sunny days ahead..it is okay to be blue, there is nothing sadder, than when you love someone, and they destroy it all...and you are pushed out of the relationship,...I just feel that God knows what He is doing,..and someone who is going to be so much better, is just around the bend...God Bless and good luck, and yes, time is a great healer
2007-08-15 00:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that could be wrong with you is that you never really let go. A divorce is almost like the loss of a loved one by death: you go through stages of grief, including anger and it could be that you have not gone through all the stages yet. Dealing with a divorce is not easy and it does cause emotional stress---so maybe, if you realize that you need to finish dealing with the divorce, will you be able to move on and end up no longer being depressed.
Just try to think about how he treated you instead of thinking about the good times and work your way through that. Eventually you should be able to move on. If not, try to get counseling. Most states' department of health have programs, including counseling to help those who cannot get it otherwise.
2007-08-15 06:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be going through the 'anniversary' blues, like when it's the six month/year anniversary of your divorce, it's quite normal to mull over these things. Also the fact that they just had a baby probably awoke all kinds of emotions in you, like what it would have been like having a family with him or perhaps a child of your own. I don't know much about your background, so I'm just guessing.
2007-08-15 06:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by CelesteMoone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear tropical,
It is time to move forward. We like to revisit old hurts and try to fiqure out what went wrong, thinking maybe if we changed this or that it would have turned out different. In reality it always ends the same. We feel the loss deeply and that is what makes us sad.
You need a fresh start, try to meet some new people, fill your day with positive things. join a club, something you'd enjoy, excersise is great, in other words get involved with things to keep your mind busy. Every time you start to think about that , say to yourself, nope that is over time to move on. Bless you.
2007-08-15 06:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you will when you dicover your part in the relationship and exsept the lost as experince for who God really has for you and you will understand why things turnd out the way they did life will get better promise
2007-08-15 13:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by Fred M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋