i am scared of her. But i have to fight her! help me out?

Question

this girl wants to fight me..
she is:
5'3"
160 Lbs.
mean.. & has been in lots of fights.

I am:
5"5"
115 Lbs.
always to nice. & i have never been in a fight.

she wants to fight me, because we both like the same guy. But he likes me. & she is moving away in 2 weeks. & to be completely honest.. she scares me so bad. I would never want to get in a fight with her. But she told the guy we both like, that i was bad mouthing him.. & that completely enraged me.. & all my friends want me to knock her out.. so she will quit talking Shiit. what shoiuld i do?

Answer 1

First off, you NEVER have to fight someone. Second, fighting over a guy is a stupid reason to fight, as it will make you look as bad as or worse than her to him. Third, if he believed her when she said you were bad mouthing him, he isn't worth fighting over anyway. Fourth, your "friends" seem to have a bad case of "let's you & her fight"; they don't have the guts to fight themselves, so they want you to fight for their entertainment, & that's another stupid reason to fight.

All that said, this girl sounds like a bully. She knows you're scared of her, & puts on a mean facade to hide her own cowardice. More than likely, she just wants to intimidate you. If she's moving in two weeks, avoidance may be your best bet. However, if she pursues this, you can easily prepare yourself to get an advantage. She has the weight, & thus power advantage, but you have the height advantage, giving you a slight reach advantage. You also most likely have more speed.

So, keep rolls of pennies in each front pocket where you have easy access, & whenever possible, put your hands in your pockets to ball these up in your fists. Be prepared, because if you hit, you could break your hand, but this can happen in any fistfight, & the pennies will make up for your power disadvantage. Also, wear footwear that will have impact, like hiking boots or good shoes (no girlie shoes). If she approaches you, go for vulnerable spots. Stomping the arches of her foot will hurt badly, especially if you can manage to rake the boot down her shin in the process, & will give you more of a speed advantage. Jabs to the nose with your weaker hand will cause her to tear up & temporarily blind her, allowing you to follow up with a good hook, cross, or uppercut with your dominant hand. Try not to allow her to grapple with you, as she will have the advantage. Instead, try to stay out of her reach, & let her tire herself. In fact, if you run & have good stamina, running first will make her overconfident, & tire her faster. Once she slows or stops, you can turn & really let loose on her while she can't breathe. Once she's this winded, you have the option of leaving the scene, or standing up to her & laying into her with a beating neither one of you will soon forget. A good kick to the gut will start things off well in this circumstance as she will already be winded, & this will make it even harder for her to get much needed oxygen.

Ultimately, I don't recommend these actions, especially for the poor reasons given. However, if it comes down to self-defense, you have to do what you must to keep from being battered. Just don't attack her, or then you're no better than she is. Let her talk if that's all she can do, because in the end, it's not going to matter. Most likely, you two are still in public school, & once you graduate, you'll likely not see many of these people ever again, including this guy you like. Good luck on avoiding this situation for the next two weeks, & if you must fight, I wish you the best.

Addendum: I looked at some of your prior questions. You are WAY too worried about what your so-called "friends" think. It doesn't sound like you have any true friends. I saw they were pressuring you to have sex at 15. This is most likely because either they have & feel guilty about their decision & knowing you makes them feel worse about having had sex, they are lying about having had sex & just want you to do it so they can hear from you what it's like, or they are basically just trying to screw up your life like they are by trying to pressure you to fight. Friends don't pressure you to do things you aren't comfortable doing, like giving up your virginity or fighting a fight you may lose, just for the sake of their own entertainment. They sound like miserable little punks, & you can find a better class of friend.

As for the statement one poster made that all people who fight are abused, that's the biggest crock I think I've ever heard in my entire life. Just because someone fights doesn't mean they get beaten at home. That sounds like some stupid Oprah Winfrey psychobabble. I've been in plenty of fights, & I've never been abused. I'm just a high-tempered person who has had to learn to curb my reactions over the years. As such, early in life, I used to punch out kids for calling me harmless names like "dummy" or "nerd". Stupid, I know, but I was a kid. Anyway, where I went to school, the playground often ended up being a "battlefield" for many of the kids, even using the eagle's nest as a fight dome to keep teachers from seeing us & interrupting a good fight. Yes, I said a good fight. Some of us actually really enjoyed fighting, including me, which is why I'm glad I stopped. Of the kids I fought, looking back, I don't remember any of them showing any signs of abuse. They just viewed me & other kids as challenges, & fought for dominance to be the best. So, some kids that fight may be abused, but to say all are is the biggest load of horse manure I think I've ever heard.

Answer 2

The worst answer is probably your best answer on this one. She's moving away. What is the point of fighting her? Fighting is a sure sign of abuse. What I mean is she is or has been physically abused. She is showing what her parents taught her. Don't Fight her. If you don't you will win. Those friends you speak of? Well, there not really your friends if they are engaging you to fight this person! Fighting is a crime and people go to jail/ prison for this all the time. Don't get wrapped up in it. It is what she wants you to do. Honestly these people are going to be no where to be found in ten years. Don't give in and WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU. All that matters now, is that you show a good example.

Answer 3

2 weeks? Why don't you just avoid this big chick? If you can't be civil for 14 days you need to look in the mirror, lady. But if you have to be in a fight learn from Lennox Lewis. Your height "should" yield a reach advantage, so quick straight punches off your front foot should be a piece of cake. Turn that face into hamburger before you bring the pain!

Answer 4

I would normally say no fighting, but in this situation, if she tries to hit you, hit her back. You can't ignore the problem because she will always try something that will make you mad.

As for the guy you like, I hope you told him the truth that you were not bad mouthing him.

EDIT: Spike her drink? Haha
--> If she doesn't have a drink, put one in her hand and then spike it!

Answer 5

You may be taller, but you're definitely not bigger. Ignore her for now. She'll be gone in two weeks, anyway. But if you really, really must fight her then be careful. Try not to hurt each other too badly. And, hopefully the guy you like doesn't believe her lies and if he does just explain the situation to him.

Answer 6

you have the reach, stay back and jab her up :) you should have the advantage in speed also. And of course there is no reason to fight fair. Use your environment to your advantage.


But the absolute best thing you can do is not give in to the peer pressure and leave it alone if she is moving away who cares?

Answer 7

dont let her know you are affaid of her,and dont start nothing but dont let her bully you either,if she starts something with you act like you have just totally lost ,she is probally all mouth anyway.Ignore her remarks she will be gone soon

Answer 8

well you can either get all crazy in her face and knock her down or you can be the better person and walk away... the bigger they are the harder they fall... It is however better for you to walk away...

Answer 9

YOU SHOOK LIKE CORN
AND SHE IS WAITING TO POP YOU GOOD!

FIGHTING OVER A GUY IS SO LAME AND THIS GIRL IS LAME.
YOU DONT HAVE A WAY OUT?
UNLESS YOU DO THE COWARD'S WAY OUT.

FIGHT HER AND GET IT OVER WITH OR ITS GOING TO BOTHER YOU FOR THE REST OF THE SCHOOL YEAR.

GET GREASE FOR YOUR FACE AND BRAID YOUR HAIR DOWN. GET SOME GOOD KICKS IN.

Answer 10

just talk to her like your the boss and make her fell weak verbally , there are many people who just have guts but can beat people who have strength