Why do women do this? Only answers from women over 20 please.?

Question

Ok. I just met a girl a few weeks ago. We had a bit of a fling but did not get into a full-fleged relationship as she was leaving the country to go back home. She had some emotional issues (problems with family, former relationship problems, sexual health problems, etc) that she would talk to me about. She was an emotional nutcase and I was a good friend to her. She is now back home and hasn't even sent me a hello or anything to say thanks for being there for her during her tough time. I just tried to be a good friend to a fellow country-mate but I feel like she just used me as an emotional crutch - and then when she left she didn't care. Why the hell do women do this?

Answer 1

I dont think she used you.
She shared some things to you to ease her burden, and you were a shoulder to cry on.
It's not that she didnt care at all when she left.
I am sure she is thankful she had a friend when she needed one... Maybe she is not trapped in the dilemma anymore that's why she is happy right now and busy with new things in her life. Rest assured, you became a good part of her life.

Answer 2

TJ
she is probably at home telling everbody she met this wonderful guy that listened to her troubles and woos .
If she is an emotional nutcase, she is probably boggled down by some other problem that she is trying to get through right now. Just a little note or call of appreciation would have been nice though. I think she is probably embarrassed and doesn't know how to say thank you. Her loss. I say good rittens to a wet dishrag. Be glad she isn't calling you with all that emotional baggage. Are you her psychiatrist?

Answer 3

That is so weird. I've never heard of a women doing that. Actually the reason she probably did that is because she just a assumed you were a good friend who didn't really want anything back in particular, just to be there, you know? Maybe she didn't like the way you dealt with her when she came to you for her problems. Imean, you did just say she was a nutcase. Or maybe, she just hasn't had the chance to say thanks. I mean, you dont go up to someone and say man you are a great person, everyday. Maybe she said it toeveryone else. "man what a great guy so and so is,"and didnt get a chance to actually tell you. But honey, not all women are like that. =)

Answer 4

A very difficult question... (not too many details, rather)
Maybe the girl was expecting some different behaviour from you? But if she doesn't really care, why should you?

I perfectly understand your frustration, but you shouldn't be obsessed about this situation really - you see, this was an experience that undoubtedly made you better, even if it left you devastated... (please look in the mirror and then at Edward Munch's picture 'The Scream' - you'll understand you are better off than this other guy at least - hope you will get my joke here)
'Why the hell do women do this?' - Do you actually believe all girls act in the same way? Can't be true...

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Answer 5

You could be entirely right, that she just used you as an emotional crutch and now that she doesn't need you any more, she has moved on, and so should you. Or, she is embarrassed by all that you know about her, and has decided it is better just to make a clean break. I think it was a case of instead of you being "Mr. Right," you were "Mr. Right Now." I would just chalk it up to experience, and consider that you are better off without her. You deserve better. I hope you soon find someone without so much baggage. You sound like a terrific guy for some lucky lady.

Answer 6

What I think you had was what you said (a fling). Or it seems so on her part. Why would you want to hear from someone who has so many emotional problems. When some one has these many problems it is not always somebodys else fault. Something is very wrong on her part. Move on . Women don't do these thing . I don't think you could call this person a Woman.

Answer 7

Friends come and go. Some people just walk out of our lives just like that & it matters so much especially when they mean a lot to us. Some men do that too, not just women. Maybe she's still having a tough time or she's just not that into you... or maybe that's just the way she is. You'll know when you cross each others paths again.

Answer 8

I don't think it's just a woman thing. It actually is a people thing. Some people only want to associate with you when they have problems. You are their sounding board & when things are good..You don't hear from them. You were used and some people are that way. Should she go through any more issues & decides to call, I'd keep a distance. You are offering friendship, not to be a doormat. Some people are just that way, only want to be bothered when convinient. Those people are sometimes hard to spot. Sorry it happened to you but at least you did help someone,says a lot about your character and a lot about hers.

Answer 9

It's possible she's incredibly embarrassed about all the things she shared with you. You described it as a 'fling'. It's also possible she sees it that way too and doesn't want to be the clingy girl that chases after the guy who only wanted a temporary thing.

Have you tried to contact her at all? If not, try a couple of times. If she doesn't respond then you know she legged it well and truly. If she does... well that's up to you.

Answer 10

You fullfilled an emotional need at the time for her. Now she is using someone else to do that. This was a helper relationsip for you. You helped her (and that isn't all bad as we do benefit from helping others) so in doing so you fullfilled a need for you as well. Just write it off as an experience along the journey.

Best of Luck

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