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Im 19 and id really like to start a family around my 30's. i kinda would like to finish College, have a good job, own a house have a car and otherr assets and enough money in my bank account to have a family and i see myself acomplishing this in around 10-12 years.However my friend sys that you shouldnt have kids in your 30s cause the child could come out brain damaged have a disease or be deformed. Yea id love my future children no matter what but im really scared. is what she said true?

2007-08-14 21:59:42 · 18 answers · asked by newbie ice hockey fan & TV serie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

18 answers

Don't listen to her. It looks like you have it all planned out and good for you. I started having kids when I was twenty and four months ago at 37 I gave birth to triplets who are perfectly healthy.
Anytime in you twenties and thirties is a great time to have kids-once you reach your forties there will be more complications but women do it all the time.
I am the proud mother or eight kids plus two gorgeous step daughters and at each stage of my life I think I improve as a mother. I sometimes feel I was too young at twenty but I got married young and that was what we wanted. If you want a big family like we did you have to start early.
Good Luck

2007-08-14 23:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0 0

Don't plan too strictly. You might meet someone that will throw off your schedule. Finishing college is a must. Getting a job is a must, too. A car can be a necessity depending on where you live. However, depending on your job and your ability to save and invest, you may not accomplish your goals as soon as you think. Or -- you may accomplish them sooner. If you get married you can work towards a goal together. Material things aren't everything, though. I've heard of women having children into their 40's. However, if you are healthy and the doctor says there shouldn't be a problem I don't know why it wouldn't be healthy to have children in your 30's. Remember, though, the older you get, the less energy you'll have to run after the kids. The next time you have a physical, talk to your doctor about this. Unless your friend is a doctor?

2007-08-14 22:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-12-30 14:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am 38 years old and had my first child 15 months ago. He is an extremely healthy, inquisitive, energetic and intelligent child. Since having him I have met a lot of mothers, the majority of whom were in their 30's when giving birth. While there is an increased risk as you get older, the odds are still very much in your favor, especially before 35. Even women in their 40's are having safe, healthy pregnancies. Your friend means well, but has not researched this topic. I would suggest you not worry too much about it now as you are very young and correct in that you should stick to your goals and worry about a family later on. But any concerns can be directed to your gynecologist.

2007-08-15 04:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie O 2 · 0 0

It's not only possible, but more and more people are having children later in life. Once you have your career established and have a little money stowed away, you will be ready and probably have more patience than if you had a child in your early 20s. As far as babies being born with challenges, the docs say that after 34, your chances rise for having a baby with Down's or spina bifida. However, if you go to your ob/gyn before you get pregnant and get on some good prenatal vitamins, especially with folic acid, for a few months before you get pregnant, you should be fine.

2007-08-15 01:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The perfect age for starting a family is in your early adulthood. That's around 25 years to a little over 30. It's ok to have kids at thirty but mind you, when you near the age of 40, complications may start with child-bearing. Although, I am not saying that it's impossible to have a baby at 40. It is possible but you will have a hard time.

2007-08-14 22:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lafi 2 · 0 1

You can have kids at 30 if that's what you prefer. In Western countries woman start late to have babies ecause they consider material things before then start family. For my opinion its better to have them early after college and few yrs of work. but big house, fat car can come after the baby its not a big deal. I agree with you we do need security if we want to start a family. I used to think like you at your age, now um 27yrs and just have a baby boy. I dont have a dream house yet but nolt for so long I will get one.

2007-08-14 22:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nomimi 3 · 1 0

Early 30's is a good time to have a child. My mom had me when she was 34. It's at higher ages when risks of deformity start to rise.

2007-08-14 22:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 0 0

30 may sound old at your age, but I'm 36 and just had my first child two weeks ago and she is completely healthy, so don't listen to all those negative comments..having a child in your 30's is a very common and natural thing to do..live your life and start a family when you're ready..

2007-08-15 09:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by M C 2 · 1 0

No its a load of rubbish, in your 40's then the child may have problems but nothing wrong with your 30's! Sounds like you have your head screwed on right and kow what you want.
Good luck to you!!!!!!

2007-08-14 22:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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