First time in a wedding....lil confused....?

Question

my best friend is getting married next summer and has asked me to be her maid of honor and to be honest im not really sure what goes with that responability. Her sister is the matron of honor and she told me that her sister would do most of the work but what should i be doing?

Ive actually been to alot of weddings where there is both a matron and a maid of honor the matron is good to have because they have already had a wedding and can help you plan and then yea then theres is me.

Answer 1

Usually the wedding party, collectively, plans a bridal shower and the bachelorette party. Other than that you are responsible for attending the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. It sounds like she is going to have her sister hold the groom's ring and her bouquet. If she asks, you may have to serve as a witness and sign the marriage license, but those may not be required in your county.

Answer 2

As you mentioned, her sister will be doing most of the work. The Maid of Honor has a traditional roll, but that is completely up to the bride to decide, so many have weddings are truely non-traditional, they do not follow the same from as those just twenty years ago, much less 40 or 100 years ago. You should have a sit down, face to face meeting, lunch, with the bride, the maid of honor and the mother of the bride and have them define exactly what they expect of you as the maid of honor. There is no one answer. Because of the extremely high stress caused by wedding plans and planners, brides and their families, you need to have your expected roll clearly stated. If you have a high maintainance/ highly stressed bride, mother of the bride or matron of honor, you need all of the solid answers you can get. You may find that your roll evolves as the wedding draws near and you will need to adapt accordingly and without adding to the stress.

Bridal magazines have lists of do's and don't, it would take hours of typing to recreate what is already there.

The very best thing you can do is to remain relaxed, easy going, supportive and most importantly INFORMED. Keep yourself in the loop. KEEP TOUCHING BASE!!!!

I have been involved with more than 100 weddings either as a member of the wedding party, as a guest, as a best man, as a caterer, as a DJ, as a planner, etc. The smallest wedding I was present at had only 5 people, the largest had more than 500. Just keep calm and cool and NEVER, NEVER get upset. NOT EVEN WHEN YOU THINK NO ONE CAN SEE YOU.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

http://www.marriage-minister.com/party.htm

Check out site above. It has a list of responsibilities.

Now the bride told you her sister would be handling most of these. But you should volunteer to be helpful, and do whatever you can to assist.

And yes, I have attended many weddings that had both a maid and a matron of honor.

Good luck to you. Enjoy the wedding.

Answer 4

actually the maid and matron of honor are the same thing... the diff is a maid is unmaried and a matron is married... so in a traditional sense youd just be a brides maid... but maybe she wants you to have a "higher" postion than the brides maids... i would talk to her sister and see what all she is doing and what she needs help on first

Answer 5

you basically there to help out in any way necessary. the matron should be doing most of it, but offer up any services that you can to help make things run smoothly. You should check out www.theknot.com it's a really good website for everything & anything weddings. I used it when planning mine a couple years ago. Good luck & congrats to the bride!

Answer 6

Ask the bride and groom. Only THEY know what they want you to do as far as responsibilities.

Answer 7

u work will b to look for ur mr right!