I was with this kid for about 3 months.He dumped me at the begining of June saying he thought I was using him and he was confused.A month later he sent me a text but I didnt answer.Last night he called me 5 times in a row and now today hes texting me telling me how sorry he is and that he misses me alot.I mean he was bad to me and made me feel like crap alot.I dealt with alot worse though.Also my friend told me she wouldnt speak to me anymore if I went back with him.She said its him or her.Im confused..someone help me =(
People do make mistakes...
2007-08-14 18:58:20 · 17 answers · asked by rawr 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What???!!! A good friend doesn't put demands like that on you! She can't control you unless you let her. I wouldn't let anyone treat me like that. What you do or don't do about this guy is your decision.
You are doing the right thing tho, by not letting him back into your life so easy. I agree with you......keep him at a distance for awhile and make him work to get back into your good graces. I'm not saying to "snub" him, just be a little indifferent and cool toward him. Let him know, that he can't treat you shabbily and pop in and out of your life that way. You have to "show" him in your demeanor and behavior.
2007-08-14 19:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I wouldn't go back for:
1) If he made you feel like crap then screw it. Any guy that you in a relationship should only bring out the best in you. And he should make you feel like the most important beautiful girl, not bad about yourself. It will just cause self esteem problems for your self. And I can already tell that has happened because you say " well I have been through worse" I used to tell myself that all the time because I had a tough life.. but you know what, thats no excuse! Especially if you have been through worse you should have someone that will improve your life and the way that you feel. No offense but I mean common you were together for 3 months, you didn't even have enough time to see all his flaws or fall in love.
2.) If it's a month later why is he texting you and calling you now? To be honest it's probably because he wanted to see if he could find something else and he is lonely. And realizes you weren't even a bad girlfriend. It sounds like the reason he gave you to break up was bullshit and a way just to get out of the relationship. Unless you have maybe a reputation of using people.
3.) Now with your friend you should really respect her strong opinion of not getting back together with him. Why? Because she was probably the friend that you would call when you crying and upset. No friends wants to see some guy make her cry let alone cry at all. If she says that most likely she has a really good reason why and it's because she cares about you and doesn't want you to get hurt, she wants whats best for you. Now your friends also is blinded by feelings she see's the true him. So really listen to at least what she has to say but in my opinion a guy that made you feel like crap and didn't make you feel good isn't worth your time and thats the buttom line. He should love everything about you even your flaws. ( the guy your in a relationship with) . I guess thats my advise on being a person has experienced more in relationships then I probably should for a life time, but do with my advise what you want, cause sometimes you can't fight the way you feel. But a friend is way more likely maybe a lifetime not a 3 month boyfriend that might break up with you again for a stupid reason.
2007-08-15 02:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by musickrzy1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called him a kid. How much maturity do you think he acquired in a month? He's probably been dumped and sees how you put up with his childish crap and longs for the old days. Your friend probably can't stand how this kid's treated you so she's letting you know how bad a decision it would be to go back with him by letting you know she wont be there for sympathy. People change sure. But most stay the same.
2007-08-15 02:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back!! I dont know the details but he must have been pretty bad to where your friends gives you an ultimatum. Obviously, his got some issues calling you so much. Listen to what your heart tells you and you can never go wrong but, at the same time take your friends advice into context she's only looking out for your best interest. From experience dealing with obsessive ex boy's save yourself the heart ache and move on.
2007-08-15 02:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Athena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..no you shouldn't go back out with him, if he made you feel bad and all that. Also, boys lie to get what they want. So I'm guessing that he lied about the missing you part as well. Yeah ppl make mistakes, but they don't have to treat ppl like crap neither. They don't have an excuse for that, no matter what. So no if I was you I would tell him no forget it. We aren't going back out and that's that, because I'm guessing that he will always treat you like crap, and I'm guessing that your friend is just trying to look out for you because she or he knows what an *** he was to you in the first place.
2007-08-15 02:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt. If he was so sure you were using him before, you never know what he might be thinking when you get back together. Also, when it comes to friends, I would never risk my friends for a man.
I had an ex that cheated on me for 5 months, and another for 2 years, and they did the whole im sorry thing like that too.
Tell him hes had his chance, he might even be trying to get back at you.
2007-08-15 02:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by chattergurl1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't know it was legal being with a kid. But guessing he is older than that. Your friend sees through this immature acting kid. Why are you confused my dear. I would hope you read what you posted here many times to clarify your confusion. Are you so needy that you need a kid like this, or just desperate to fix him. ( which you can't) Sad to say many women today set there standards so low. men think it Ok to act the way they do. I hope your standards are high...
2007-08-15 02:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...all I have to say is re- read what you wrote and tell me what you would tell a friend that said that. Key words " I mean he was bad to me and made me feel like crap alot". If you are not happy in a relationship its not worth being in it, and its never as hard as it seems to find someone else.
2007-08-15 02:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to go back since you added that. "People do mistakes". Honey that's not your friend if she's making you chose between the guy you like and her. I say tell her that. Tell her how you feel. Decide whats more important. Decide if you really want a friend to make you choose. Good luck!
2007-08-15 02:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, since he was the one who broke up with you, he didn't even have trust in the relationship so, he'll probably do it again.
Don't waste your time on him
2007-08-15 02:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by Thao Kun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋