Ok so i just found out my bf has had sex 30+ times with different girls .. i mean the past is the past and i still love him but isn't that a lil to much? I mean whats average? Im guessing 30+ isnt .. wut do u all think?
2007-08-14 18:35:10 · 25 answers · asked by RaNiErRr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes 24 .. and me and him have not had sex .. im waiting till i get married but im still shocked lol all th epast guys ive dated had sex about 1-5 times so hearing 30 is wayyy to much .. he told me he got tested a while back but would it be rude to as him to get tested again
2007-08-14 18:44:14 · update #1
hes 24 .. and me and him have not had sex .. im waiting till i get married but im still shocked lol all th epast guys ive dated had sex about 1-5 times so hearing 30 is wayyy to much .. he told me he got tested a while back but would it be rude to as him to get tested again
2007-08-14 18:44:22 · update #2
No, I don't think that's a little much.
2007-08-14 18:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was before you two got together, it shouldn't matter if it was a 100 or 1...
In a relationship, the past is just that, the past. Who ever told you these numbers is either trying to make you distrust him or they are interested in him their self.
Leave it alone and enjoy what he has learned in his PAST....
If the shoe was on the other foot, would you want him to bring it up to you? My sister and her husband discussed this and told each other the names of the other people... WRONG decision.. After that, they never trusted each other again.
BTY, 30 is a high number for a woman, but not a man. Depends on how old he is.
MEN ARE MEN !!!!!!!!!
WAIT!!!!!!!!!! at 24, that is a tad too many different women. But if he has had it with a couple but that many times, that's more normal.........
Sounds like he is trying out for a Horny Man Tournament.... LOL LOL LOL (just kidding dear)
2007-08-15 01:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 34 and I've been with a total of 7 women. Five of them before I got married, my ex-wife, and one since. Some might consider that too many.
Yes, 30+ would be a lot. Maybe even bordering on exaggeration. The question is whether it's too many for you to accept.
Regardless, make sure he's tested for STD before you sleep with him and make sure he wears a condom.
Wait, I missed something. Has he had sex 30+ times with several different women, or has he had sex with 30+ women. If it's just 30+ encounters with just 2-3 partners than that's hardly anything to bat an eyelash at.
2007-08-15 01:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys say stuff like that to brag. He probably thinks he is impressing you & feels like it gives him some sort of authority in bedroom.
Additionally really vauge numbers like "more than thirty" are super suspicious. People like that say things like that because there is no real number over thirty, so giving a range is just easier.
If he's not lying you might want to seriously consider getting a blood screening for STD's including aids. So should he.
My old roommate was a runway model, he recently called me to celebrate number 70. The guy currently has herpes & has had every other minor STD you can possibly imagine.
So best case scenario he is just trying to manipulate you, worst case get yourself checked & get him checked.
2007-08-15 01:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are saying it is not normal? lets say you have 4 different relationship in a year. You would hit than number in 8 years.
He is just being a man. We date, and do have sex with a girl. But we move on when she isn't the one to have long term relationship. Sometimes several times a year.
2007-08-15 02:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sang K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually 30 is REALLY low compared to the guys that I know! Relax! As long as he has been given a clean bill of health from the Health Department, and you love each other, and he is only sleeping with you now.... What's the problem?! Just hope that he picked up some pleasurable tricks for you along the way!
2007-08-15 01:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if the girls are more than 30 u r risking ur life, else if he had sex with say less than 10 girls and had it 30+ times that shouldn't bother u at all.
2007-08-15 01:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anderson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just read last month issue of glamour, an average guy has sex 80+ times each year. so 30 is not much. but who in the world counts?
so i assume that you are young. and please be careful with him because he seems to care more about the number than the girl.
2007-08-15 01:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by graciespark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past so you either forgive him or not. You make the decision when the time is right of what you really want to do with the relationship. As someone suggested, please go to the doctors and get checked out.
2007-08-15 01:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Izzy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, 30 times, or 30 girls?
30 TIMES is nothing. 30 girls is a different story. That's more than average for sure, but it's his life.
2007-08-15 01:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by nodotdotdot 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That sounds more than average, but if you love him and the past is the past, it doesn't matter, right?
I would get tested for STDs and make him get tested befor eyou guys have sex.
2007-08-15 01:38:19 · answer #11 · answered by Sunny Flowers 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋