This guy was leading me on for a long time and making me feel like we were dating. He was asking me to go on trips with him and even talked about taking me to the Grand Canyon. Then someone mentioned that he had a girlfriend. At first I didn't believe them, but then I noticed that he was dragging out the whole scenario without any commitment, and he was sending me a ton of mixed signals. I started sending him short, abrupt little emails instead of the long, lingering ones he was used to. Then he went away on vacation. I stopped emailing altogether even for weeks after he was back home. Now things are very awkward. He is playing friendly and people are still making like we're on the brink of dating. But I know different. Should I tell him what I know? Should I cut if off, or resume our usual routine in hopes of some kind of confession? What on earth is the best way to handle this?
2007-08-14 18:29:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But I never even said that I know for sure that he has a girlfriend. The person who said that is kind of shady. It may be just a rumor or an attempt to ruin things. How can I find out if it's true?
2007-08-14 19:00:09 · update #1
It may be awkward, but you can learn a lot from this experience. And NO, I would not resume the usual routine with him. I would completely ignore him and not even give him the time of day. However, if he does approach you, you might look him straight in the eye and say, "why didn't you tell me you had a g/f instead of leading me on, deceiving me and keeping me in the dark?" Be assured, he has made his choice between you and her. If anyone feels awkward, it should be him and not you, hon.
In the future, get more info on a guy before you invest too much of your "heart" into the relationship. Ask around and get as many facts on him as possible. Now that you know some of the clues to look out for, don't forget them.
2007-08-14 18:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, first off, u should! it sound like he is trying to have his cake n eat it too. u should break it off bc 1, u now know he has a gf and thats not fair to her. i know thats not ur fault but if u persue him now, it will b bc u know of her. U wouldnt want to b treatd that way. and 2, he sound like a piece of ****. who does he think he is? he isnt brad pitt n isnt good enough to have 2 girls
2007-08-15 01:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by ugotjustin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck on that one I say leave it alone its not evn worth it. Ask him does he have a girlfriend if he look guilty when you ask just walk away.
2007-08-15 01:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by robin love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and talk 2 him about it. straighten things out for good!!
2007-08-15 01:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by babysitter ( : 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋