Just wondering how guys feel about that? Older guys...in their 20s and 30s.
Or am I just viewed as a lay?
2007-08-14 17:26:31 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes if I was attracted to you. If you became someone that I felt strongly for then I would understand that your children are a part of you. They would come first cause they matter most.
Some out there would run from what they call "extra baggage" but I can say that if you are someone that I find special then so are they.
To me a single parent is a strong and great person. Not only are they having to give all of themselves to their children, but they put themselves last in most cases. I would be the one to help, the one to care and the one that would understand your responsibilities.
If you find someone that wants you then they will want everything that you are as well. I truly respect the single mothers out there.
2007-08-14 17:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by homeri14 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
By the way the man treats you, you should be able to tell if he actually likes you or if you are just a lay to him.
Many men accept it that when they reach their late 20s/early 30s, the chances of them meeting a woman with a child (or children) is pretty high. I have two children and recently remarried a wonderful man that treats them great. He had a bit of difficulty with the "insta-family" and being with me took some getting used to. When we were dating, it took awhile for him to realize that there were weekends that I did have my kids and I couldn't always go out. Over time, he actually saw this as an opportunity. During the days we would do something fun with the kids; and at night he would be able to go out with his friends without feeling like he was excluding me. It was the best of both worlds for him. Now that we are married, we still have time to ourselves when the kids are with their dad. He has grown quite attached to them.
Just be careful about letting a man meet your kids to soon. It can ultimately hurt them if they get close to someone and the relationship not work out. I have had one of those too. The guy got involved and then he decided the kids were too much for him.
So, honestly, it really is a matter of the individual you meet. Many men are accepting towards us moms, but others just aren't quite ready to accept the responsibility that comes along with it.
2007-08-15 00:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by moocuddle76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to date a guy with kids. If guys over 30 rule out dating a single mom, that leaves maybe 20% of the female population eligible to date.
2007-08-15 08:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about dating a mother, but i wouldn't date a father, but that's just me. I don't know why, but it's really important to me that the guy not have kids( just easier i guess), but the older i get (I'm going to be 30 on 9-11) the harder I'm finding that to be possible.
2007-08-15 00:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by puppylve20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a mother with 3 boys-they were 8,12 and 17 at the time. We've been together 8 yrs now and married for 6.
2007-08-15 00:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by goodcook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the guy and his age. I wouldnt date a guy with kids, but I am 27 without my own kids, so I want the experience of sharing a first (only) child. If I were 35, 40s, I probably wouldnt care. Alot of guys and girls it doesnt bother at all, and some it does. You shouldnt have a problem.
2007-08-15 00:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by emm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I don't like the idea of dating any woman with kids, especially if the father of the kids is still around. But that's just me; some men have no problem with that.
2007-08-15 00:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. I've had friends with kids and they had no problem finding decent men. Then again, there are men like my brother. He told me he considered his ex-girlfriend "Tainted" because she had a child with her fiancee. I took offense, because I'm a mother. I had to wonder how difficult it would be if my husband and I ever separated. There ARE good men out there. You just have to look harder!
2007-08-15 00:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date a mother no questions asked.I love kids and sometimes they are just part of the package.Love has no bounds.I view kids as a plus in any relationship.
2007-08-15 00:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
More then likely you can met guys who have children and you should be able to find a way to work this out . More then likely someone who has children would be more willing to date you and more understanding. Look for someone who has children just like you do.
2007-08-15 00:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋