From when people are boys and girls by large they think different. Have different interest. Scientist have gone so far as to say females and males are just wired different. There are some cross overs, men who like things traditionally women and vise versa, but the line is pretty cut and dry. So why do males and females try to get together? Would they, if it were not for sex? Would seem logical because no one really thinks of having a serious relationship if there was not going to be any sex in it. Would you? Really, no lie? So outside the sex, what is there that would get a guy and a gal together if there were no sex jumping off ever?
2007-08-14 17:25:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't date girls until i've had sex with them. But theres many other guys who don't ever or rarely get sex with their female opposites. What they end up doing is supplicating for the girl only to be at a loss of power and lowers his own attraction level to the girl.
Edit: Probably just those few good shared moments at X place or X event.
2007-08-14 17:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Haikin L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not really. It's about LOVE, the whole package. Here's my personal experience:
When I met my 'now boyfriend' 2.5 years ago at a work outing, all I wanted to do was to go down on him 4 times a day. I had never felt like that about ANYONE. He wasn't receptive to that and I was barking mad. I moved to a different department, and was angry and resentful and crazy jealous. Then after a couple of months, I told myself that I didn't even know this man. So, I joined his walking group. The four of us walked around for 2 miles or so every day. During these walks we both noticed we had lots of common interests and good communication and we laughed a lot together. Gradually, it was the two of us walking together, we started exchanging books, movies, etc. We started hanging out and then became a couple. We've been a committed couple for 7 months and we just started holding hands. He is so positive, kind, smart and beautiful that I fell in love with him for who he really is. I'm willing to wait for sex until after we get married. He is worth it.
2007-08-15 16:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the obvious and real answer to your question is
LOVE,
and no I'm not being a sap. - let me explain.
yes all animals, and humans have an uncontrollable urge to procreate. If we didn't then there wouldn't be any people or animals. think about it, if it wasn't a primal instinct, and there was no extreme feeling to it. Why would anyone do it?
these feelings for sex are inbred to ensure procreation.
the big difference between humans and animals, is that most animals are not driven by the desire to be loved and to give love.
also if you look at animal and human baby's, and how many months for most animals and how many years for humans it takes for the young to mature.
You will probably notice a correlation in longer term relationships(love) for the baby's that need a longer time to mature.
(Humans take the longest to mature.)
Love can be used to describe these long term relationship needs
what I'm trying to say is that love helps to ensure the baby's development and survivability. If there are two parents to care for the baby until it matures than it should have a great chance
to mature into an adult.
if people didn't love each other and their children. Would anyone care what happened to the babys?
just look at turtles for a quick reference. the mother buries her eggs, and then runs for the water with not a care in the world - no love there. and just look at the low percentages of turtles that make it to adulthood.
also if you are religious, lets not forget the fact that Love is something that God has created for us to experience, and recipricate back to him.
2007-08-15 22:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffxx7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how is it possible that sometimes when u meet someone ur interest in them is not for sex? and u don't see them in that way at all, but u like to be in their company???
but then another time when u meet someone u are so sexually attracted to them??
what makes that difference do u think???
if what u say is true that would mean that no matter who we meet from the opposite sex we would be sexually attracted to them. can u imagine being sexually attracted to ur mother???
our attraction to the opposite is more than just wanting sex, its the difference that intrigues us and attracts us, the sexual chemistry is part of the mind which differentiates our personal tastes and "right" from "wrong"
2007-08-15 00:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't know who these "scientists" are, but i don't agree.
we are different biologically (thank God) but then i feel a lot has to do with how we're raised, environment, customs, all the things that come into play in making us who we are..and our responses to them.
so as wonderful as sex is..i believe in something called love ..and that is what brings us together.
and actually...sex is (should be) the RESULT of that. wanting to be as close, intimate with someone as you can get.
2007-08-15 00:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by shyanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Companionship. Getting to know the person . Yes the sex is great to have but to me it is not a necessity. I want someone that I can spend time with to love and pick and play.
2007-08-15 00:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is just part of the equation.. in a relationship, the most important criteria is the undertanding and commitment of both male and female.
2007-08-15 00:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by zykoe1208 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ahhh no sex is not the real attraction --- i enjoy my ladies company --- a lot --- she is an interesting person and there are so many experiences that we can share that have nothing to do with sex ---- have fun
2007-08-15 00:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋