quarter life crisis?

Question

is it possible to be having a quarter life crisis? i have everything i ever wanted...i'm getting married, i have a good education, good job, good friends...

but i feel like i want to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe and drop out of grad school and become a florist or a housewife...i still want to get married, only thing that feels right.

what the hell?

i ask in r&s because you guys are the best.

not to mention that i've upped myself 3 levels in the last 2 weeks on YA. i never used to go on YA.

you guys are awesome!!!!

Answer 1

You have a lot on your plate.. To feel a bit overwhelmed by it all isn't really a surprise when you look at it all and realize all that's there..

I would suggest prioritizing make a list of all the things you have going and decide if any can be ppostponed even just long enough to finish other things... for instance grad school and your up comming wedding could you take a semester off school and do the wedding or postpone the wedding and finish school..

If you can't prioritize some things away until others are finished think about delegation can you either hire a wedding planner or have trusted family members friends help with the wedding planning...

Getting married often marks the beginning of a new era in your life the thought of trashing your wardrobe and getting all new is normal you want to mark your new era with a new look..

Instead of going completely nuts try getting out your wardrobe and sorting it.. Get rid of pieces you haven't warn in ages, find pieces you have forgottenyou had because they were so buried.. try different selections together for new looks.. Once you have it all sorted buy a few mix and match pieces as well as a few accessories to make your old wardrobe new again..

Once your wardrobe is in order you will begin to see ways of putting other bits in order..

If after you get it all in order you find you still want to try floral design and being a florist.. consider completing school then giving it a try.. You will always have your education to fall back on should the florist career not work out...

Your life isn;t in crisis it's simply full and overwhelming fix what you can and then work through the rest it will all come together in the end..

Remember sometimes it makes us feel a lot better to just walk into a closet shut the door and scream like a banshee for a few minutes... I suggest having your fiance around when you do "closet scream" then don't explain.. Simply say "I am a woman of mystery, that is one of my mysterious traits"... At the least it will give you something to smile about and if you are lucky he will think "She's nuts and needs flowers and chocolates." which is my husbands reaction to "closet screaming" ....

Answer 2

Let me share something with you. I used to think to myself.... when I have this one thing or when I'm able to do this or that my life will be perfect and I'll truly be happy. But life isn't like that. You can reach all of those goals or acquire all of those things and still not be satisfied. The best moments in life have come from the simple little day to day stuff....a friend inviting me out to lunch or doing a page in my art journal and the satisfaction that comes with it. Life is short. We can find joy in the simple things if we're just open to it. P.S. I used to feel the same way you do about others whose lives seemed more 'on track' than mine. If you dig a little deeper you will realize things aren't always what they seem. Some of the people that I envied the most and thought had near perfect lives turned out to be very unhappy people.

Answer 3

Maybe you are just sick of the whole game. You have probably been in school every year since you were 4. At some point, you just need to take a break and really "live" your life. At least, that's how I felt at that age (which was only a handful of years ago)! You have to ask yourself also, is it what you really want, or what you think you are supposed to want. If you have really thought a lot about what you want to do in your life, and still want to do what you are doing, then keep doing it! If not, do something else, honey!

Answer 4

I completely understand. I'm not even going to celebrate that birthday, which is rapidly approaching. I would say stick with the school, start arranging flowers as a hobby, and get married if you are ready. As a teacher, I spend my summers being a housewife...it's not all it's cracked up to be (that's why I waste so much time on here....)

Answer 5

Jeannie,
I really enjoy Diane's answers. She spent a lot of time and has a wonderful answer for you. I am twice your age and believe me the time rolld quicker for us than for you right now. Finish the schooling and marry that young man if he is the right one. I guess you already checked him out. I could get three or four of the YA Guys to check him out if you feel we need to. (Ha, Ha) I quit after my Master's Degree and I am now disabled but I absolutely loved the work that I was doing. Make sure that you take the time to smell every flower that comes your way. They are there to be smelled! Have a wonderful week.
Thanks,
Eds

PS... Prioritize, Prioritize, PRIORITIZE!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like you're just maturing. You really should stick it out in school but find other ways to liven up your life if you find something is missing. Buy a few new things to wear. Talk to your fiance about your feelings, too. You're starting a new life together and you're probably getting your priorities changed a lot right now.

Answer 7

Trust In Jesus, Life Crisis Come And Go

Answer 8

It is your life you need to decide how to live it.

There is nothing wrong with changing your life. You can do it as many times as you need to.

The people who care about YOU will understand. The people who just like the IDEA of you will dump you like a hot potato, or maybe I should say Sweet Potato since the Sweet Potato is a south beach thing.

Answer 9

You should finish school, because if you quit, you most likely will never go back to finish. If you are only 25, you may still have time to do all the rest.

Answer 10

I'm at third life crisis and let me tell you, they pretty much just come constantly. I just roll with them now and not worry about the specifics. Just evaluate am I actually living my life? If I am, I don't worry about it and move on. If I'm not I make some changes.