I am 15 and I know my father does drugs for a fact. Every night he has work he goes into the garage and takes some drugs. As fare as I can tell he has been doing it for about 4 years maybe longer. What i want to know it should I tell my Mom? They fight alot sometimes and i am afraid if i tell her this there marrige will fall apart or my dad will hate me (we dont get along as much as he would like). Please Help someone.
2007-08-14 16:53:28 · 15 answers · asked by Ron K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you know for a fact that he is doing drugs? How and what is he taking?
I would approach my dad first before saying anything to your mom. You could be wrong.
If he is doing drugs, your mom probably already knows and that's why they fight.
Ask your dad first.
2007-08-14 16:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 2 great boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you're going through....And no matter what you do...your parents will never hate you, thats what unconditional love is about. I would advice to talk to your mother and father. If their marriage falls apart, maybe its better for them to be apart if thats the only way they could get along. Its not safe for you or any of your family to be near someone who's been abusing drugs. And the fights may have been caused by that...There's a chance your mother is aware of it and have done nothing to solve the problem but just to be sure talk to her. If in the future you're afraid for your own safety, talk to your priest, a good family friend or a teacher. They will help you.
2007-08-15 00:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor child!!!!!!!!! I feel for you. Do you have a minister, a close relative or grandparent that you can talk to . I know how you will feel but it may be the best thing for your family to get him some help before he does something to himself or someone else. If nothing else tell your mom you are concerned and ask her to please not tell him you are the one that told her, he might try to blame it on you but believe me it is none your fault! Good luck and you will be in my prayers!
2007-08-15 00:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom and ask her if she notice your dad behavior, most likely she already knows, but bring it up that why they fight all the time, it better that your father leaves then constantly dreading everyday and hearing them fight he needs help with the drugs/anger but your father has to want the help because if he doesn't then there's nothing you can do but mom& you leave and find peace.
2007-08-15 00:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A TERRIBLE POSITION TO BE IN. I'M SURE YOUR MOM KNOWS ALREADY. SO TALK TO HER. ASK HER IF IT CAN BE CONFIDENTIAL BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU. ASK HER IF SHE CAN TAKE YOU TO SEE A COUNSELOR YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE IF YOU CANT TALK TO YOUR MOM EVERY CITY HAS FREE COUNSELING CENTERS LIKE AL ANON IT JUST MIGHT HELP YOU. IT WOULD BE ALA TEEN FOR YOU BUT THAT WOULD BE A START THEY CAN SEND YOU IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. WHAT EVER HAPPENS BETWEEN YOUR PARENTS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! IT NEVER WAS OR WILL BE. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT. GOOD LUCK I HOPE I HELPED YOU A LITTLE
2007-08-15 00:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but your Mom does know. She might hide it for your sake but she has to know. If you really love your Dad then you will talk to your mother about getting him help. You should just confront your Dad and let him know that you know what he is doing and it's not cool.
2007-08-14 23:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by TandL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now i know the situation that you are in. it is all too familiar to me. but based on past experience confonting my father was the best thing i did. because then we were able to talk about it and why he was doing what he was doing. and then he was able to stop because he realized what he had at steak if he got caught. so my advice it to confront your dad and try to talk to him about it. and make sure you tell him you never told your mom
2007-08-15 00:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by zack a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a school counselor and talk to him first, or go to a neutral adult and explain your situation and your fears. hopefully this person will plan a meeting between you and your mom and then later your dad. your situation is tough and it will suck at first, but getting this out in the open will help you and your family figure things out. and most of all to get help for your dad.
2007-08-15 00:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by brujitotino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs are illegal. If it is something that is bothering you then you need to talk to your parents about how you feel. Maybe try talking to them together.
2007-08-14 23:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with kroocht...maybe she know...maybe you can investigate what kind of drugs he used , yes Ur 15...but u can tell your opinion to your father with the right way
2007-08-15 00:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by lets talk-now w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋