I recently went out with a chick and I really didn't set up the date she did with me. So I went to he resturant and had dinner with her and she askes me "Do you want to go halfs on the dinner". Since I really didn't set up the date I said yes. Well then I tryed to set up a date with her the second time and she tells me. That I sould have payed for the dinner and that she likes chivalry from a guy and tells me that we can be friends.
I just thought I would see what most people think about the guy or the girl buying dinner or how that works?
2007-08-14 16:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by Spike1982 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally do so - but this is one of the oldest DOUBLE STANDARDS in the dating world!!!
Sure, it's the Gentlemanly thing to do - but it should not be automatically expected (or DEMANDED)! The reason us guys do this is because we want to make a good first impression - it shows that we aren't (completely) selfish, and that we are thoughtful and considerate :):)
2007-08-14 16:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy should buy...if he went halfs I would think that's a little rude because it's traditional for a guy to do that. Going halfs is the cheap way out. Might as well have her pay for everything.
Sorry, I didn't read the last part, but it was wrong of that girl to say that...so WHAT? Unless it made her go into serious debt and have to find some other way to pay the bills, she didn't need to "dump" you over a few dollars, especially when she planned it and then even offered after. So she was testing you. That was DUMB on her part.
2007-08-14 16:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For one that chick was clearly double talking. I mean if she clear as day asked to go dutch on the dinner she clearly invited you out to. Then she has no right to say she likes chivalry in a guy if she is willing to have him help her pay for the meal. And for another thing she shouldn't have asked you out on that date if she couldn't pay for the full meal herself. It is my opinion that the person that ask someone out to dinner is the one that should pay. I mean to go dutch the first date is tacky as hell in my view. So yea, in the future pay for the meal when you ask someone out, unless its farther along in the relationship and you say you are willing to treat but you didn't get paid this week it be nice if you can bring along a few extra bucks just in case. Any person should be able to understand that one.
2007-08-14 17:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ALWAYS pay for the woman, especially on the first date! It's rude not to. The girl offered to see if you'd do it or not, it was a test and you failed. It just shows that you're a gentleman, that you have money, which means you're independent and have a job, hence responsibility--all good attributes that she picks up from such a simple gesture.
Mr.Curious is right. Its not a very nice gesture for her to do that, so don't ask her out again. I know i just argued her case, but i was trying to get you to see her point of view. Testing guys is rather manipulative, so i'd say "stay away from the games, don't ask her out again!"
2007-08-14 16:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On the first date, if HE sets up the date HE pays for it all. If SHE chooses the location then go halfs.
2007-08-14 16:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by beltoraze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont really like the "going halfs" thing as far as dating goes. when i dated if i asked a guy out i also said up front i was planning on picking up the tab. sometimes a guy will want to get together but not want to go out anywhere, often i found it was because they didnt always have the money to actually go out, dating gets expensive.
2007-08-14 16:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she's being a little selfish, cause she offered...but in general, if you don't know each other too well, it's a better idea for the guy to pay on the first date. First impressions mean a lot.
2007-08-14 16:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeha u should had pay i mena i would
but if u wnent halfs that is not acceptable for a girl denying u for another date
shes definately a gold digger
just dnt botther asking her againg look for another girl and next time just pay for her everytiem as long as u can
and try to do half from time to time to c if shes into u
2007-08-14 16:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by mr. curious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that if the girl asks a guy out (which in my opinion is wierd in the first place) should at least pay for hers
but if the guy asks her out he should pay
2007-08-14 16:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you ALWAYS pay for the girl if you can. don't do halfs, especially not on the first date
2007-08-14 16:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋