I feel so dull... How do i be more interesting and exciting?

Question

I used to read more, now I get bored. I used to know alot more, now I feel like I'm dumb. Even the things I had alot of fun with before bore me now.

I am in a 2 year relationship that is deteriorating. Both of us love each other very much, but it is dull. He says I'm too 'subserviant' He likes being teased, having mental stimulation. I would like that too!! But I just dont feel like I know how.

I avoid conversations. I cant concentrate. My roommate asks me to read something she liked from her class, and I cant get past the first page. Its an interesting subject, but I am just not interested, even though I am, if that makes any sense.....

Please! I need some help.

I'm making an appointment with a counsellor tomorrow, but I am feeling so low right now.

suggestions?

Answer 1

I feel so similiar, My family is always so negative about me and i got really depressed and felt like i wasn't fun enough, i've been trying to speak my mind more and bought some brighter clothes and i've been trying to think outside the box, i have that problem with the reading thing 2, i used to be reading all the time, a book every day or 2 and now nothing really excites me, I got this book i was excited about reading but now its just boring..... Try to pick up another interest, I was trying to get back to reading so i read this johnny depp biography and it made me realize that i found film really interesting.......... Maybe try to do something artistic?????

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Just be yourself and someone will find you "interesting and exciting", maybe even your boy friend of 2 years. When you start trying to be someone you really are not you cease to have that natural glow of true spontaneity. Even actresses of many years training can't bring it off without repeat attempts.

Maybe that is why your relationship is deteriorating; you are trying to be someone you are not. Also maybe your bf is guilty too of not being very "exciting." Tell your bf honestly that you can't be someone you are not; try to remember what it was about you he liked when you were first engaged and be that. A counselor may be OK but he/she is only good if you open up honestly to them, like you did here.

Good luck and remember I'm not "Dear ABBY" I'm just an old man who once had a wife who divorced him; she was very subserviant, But I got over it. good mental health, peace and love!