Why do I keep falling for him (don't know how to extend)?

Question

There is a guy I've worked with for 3 years. He wanted me for 2 years and I always turned him down. He moved for a year and recently moved back. Right before he left, I realized I cared about him and we got involved. Then it turned into a big game. He would do thing like tell me he loved me, then say that he doesn't want to be with me but he doesn't want me with anyone else. He would say other terrible things just to hurt me and later apologize and say that he doesn't understand why he does it. Now that he is back, he is working with me again (he has a new job lined up though) and is living in the same town. He lies to me to drag me back just to hurt me again. He has said and done horribly mean things and told me that he is an alcoholic and bipolar and so he can't help it. Last weekend he slept with me then told me that it was just sex and stopped communication. How can I stop playing this game?

Answer 1

Realize you need more in a relationship then he can give. See he isn't the problem you are for letting him come back. You need to figure that out, accept it, forgive yourself, and let go of any hope for this fella. You've been thru a lot with him, isn't time you give yourself a breck? Also maybe do some stuff with you so that you actaully give a crap about you, because if thats how you treat yourself I hate to be your enemy....