my girlfriend says i want to have sex too often. i like to have sex at least once every 2 days and more on weekends. that's normal isn't it? how the hell do i convince her it's normal!
2007-08-14 15:33:35 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want sex just about everyday!
2007-08-14 15:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by Coley 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you have a healthy sex drive to me. Everyone's sex drive is different though. Maybe she likes less, longer sexual bouts. Her libido may not be as active as yours is, but once every two days and a little more on the weekends sounds about right. Although, when people are in relationships for a long time or have kids, that may seem like more than usual.
2007-08-14 15:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a Ferarri and she's a Kia. Part of working on a healthly relationship is finding the middle ground. You want sex every 12 hours and she's more comfortable with every 48.
So dude, what's really more important here and what are you really in this relationship for?? If all you want is release, go take a magazine to the loo. If you want a meaningful, lasting relationship with gf, start talking and figuring out what works best for BOTH OF YOU.
2007-08-14 15:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bev B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal? What's Normal? You are completely normal but the problem is your sex drives don't match up. You should compromise an d try ever three days and one day on the weekend and JACK off the rest of the time!
2007-08-14 15:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are trying to pressure her to have sex when you want to. Sex is a two way street...you shouldn't be forcing the other person to do it if they don't want to. There isn't a specific 'normal amount of times per week/year/month' chart anywhere. It varies per person. For some people it's 'normal' to do it 2 a day, for others twice a month. It depends on the person.
2007-08-14 15:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by RockNRoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back, and calm down. You don't 'need' to have sex. Everyone has a different sex drive, you just happen to be really horny. If I were you, I would talk to your girlfriend, find out what she wants, perhaps you've not been taking her out like you used to. If you're just going over to her house for a booty call, then dude, you're completely ignoring her needs. Get her flowers randomly, take her out to dinner, go dancing, something, and when you go to see her, stop expecting sex. Hell, next time you see her, keep your pants on, and masturbate at home.
2007-08-14 15:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Erulechto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needing sex? actually you never "need" sex. you may want it more often but it is not a requirement, if she does not want it as often as you do, try to be a little compassionate. Understand not everyone has the same drive, there may came a time when she wants it and you don't. Stop thinking with the wrong head, there is so much more to a relationship other than sex.
2007-08-14 15:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never heard that anyone needed to have sex.
If you aren't married, you don't need to have sex with your girlfriend.
If you love your girlfriend and you aren't just using her as a form of sophisticated masturbation, why don't you marry her?
Maybe you haven't seen the memo. Men and women don't have the same needs. You "need" sexual gratification, which is why God gave you a left hand. But if your girlfriend is normal, she needs emotional and physical and spiritual security for herself and the family she thinks you want to help her raise. By the way, she thinks that you want to raise a family with her because you keep trying to procreate with her. You probably even tell her things like "I love you." Are you lying to her just so that you can have sex with her?
Maybe this is a good time for you to evaluate your intentions, and what it means to be a man. Are you developing a character of integrity, courage, honesty, self-respect? Where does your treatment of your girlfriend fit into your image of yourself as a man? Are you merely using her to pump up your ego or demonstrate what a big man you are? Or do you have true and honest feelings of love, respect and admiration for your girlfriend?
Let's suppose that when all is said and done, this last turns out to be true. You have honest feelings of love, respect and admiration for your girlfriend. That is excellent. Go buy the book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr and read it through a couple of times, then leave it laying around for your girlfriend to read. Don't tell her she has to read it. You have to read it. This book will help you to have and enjoy more sex with your girlfriend. Partly because if she sees you read it, she will probably read it, especially if she notices you doing things that make it clear that you have read it. And the book will convince her that your needs are normal. You won't have to convince her of anything. If you don't read it, you just leave it around expecting her to read it, she will not see you doing anything that indicates that you have read it, and she won't be convinced of anything, except perhaps that you are trying to manipulate her. Good luck.
2007-08-14 15:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by trogwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal! My fiance asks at leasts once a day if not more! So your girl is lucky! She gets off scot free if your asking her for it every 2 days. We have sex average 2x a week.
2007-08-14 15:43:40 · answer #9 · answered by Bella83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are in your 20s or can be 30s. Can you convince yourself you might need sex once a month or in a few months when you reach 50s?
2007-08-14 15:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by jizusu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different when it comes to sex and how often they want it. what ur saying is pretty normal to me....i can go without it longer because sex isn't really on my mind that much. i think guys differ from women a lot as well.
2007-08-14 15:56:11 · answer #11 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋