Muslimahs ......... Do you shake hands with men ??? Muslim Brothers are also Welcome,,,?

Question

I am just asking coz i don't shake hands with men,but many say that there is no problem to do so,however, i'm not satisfied.
What's your opinion ?

As for me, i don't think this is a right thing a Muslimah can do........

Edit:

To Marhama:
Hey,sweetie,I'll tell you what to do,but if it works let me know :-D

Well, at first try to be always wearing gloves wherever you doubt any man could offer shaking hands with you.

Then when he comes to shake hands,you shall delay a little bit and then offer your hand slowly and shyly and let your husband say " oh, sorry she does not shake hands " then your husband shall explain later the reason.

Then let your husband shake hands instead of you with whoever offers his hands to you

Therefore,bit by bit all the surrounding men shall by time know that you do not shake hands and they will most probably respect your viewpoint.
After all ,honey, do feel at ease to say " sorry, i don't shake hands."

Hope that helps,Sweetie......
That's how my mother used to do ten years ago till all the men around us know her........ :-)

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Answer 1

I do, I know it's a problem
and I really want to stop it, but it's sooooooooo difficult to me
people will judge me impolite when they give their hand then I refuse
please help! what should I do!!
=(

Answer 2

It is not in our culture to do so. Even when we live in UK/USA
but still shaking hands even with men from our own community isn't comfortable. When a Muslim girl extends
her hand I really feel uneasy but any way go ahead and shake
but its different than shaking hands with non Muslim girls.

I really think about the hand shake and cannot help myself
wondering whether that Muslim girl meant anything beyond
the hand shake, what was on her mind and whether I should
be the first to offer my hand to her the next time we meet ?

I really feel comfortable with our traditional Aadab, Salaam or
Marhaba.

Answer 3

It depends on the situation. If I am in Morocco where it is not always done, I don't feel pressured to and often don't unless the man is family or a good friend of my husband or his family. In the States where it is a cultural practice and considered offensive not do shake hands, then I do. God knows that is in my heart and knows that when I shake a man's hand there is no sexual intent. I can still be modest and faithful to my husband, and practice my native culture.

Answer 4

I'm sorry but this is absolutely absurd. People focus on minute things instead of the big picture. In Islam, everything is based on your Niyat (intentions) rite? So if you dont have bad intentions then what difference does it make whether you're shaking hands or not? Shouldn't we be focusing on becoming better muslims as a nation. Shaking hands is a very small thing but extremists make it a big deal..look what's happening around the world because of these extremists. Is that Islam????? Islam is the most beautiful religion and the most liberal of all and yet women and men in our culture go into the nitty gritty things and make a big deal out of it to the point where they end up giving islam a bad name.

Instead of wasting our energy on talking about shaking hands or not, we should be coming together as liberal muslims and talk about showing the world what Islam is really all about. Islam never has and never will suppress women and that's wat these taleban are teaching.

Sorry to keep bragging but it boils my blood when there are bigger issues to discuss and here we are talking about shaking hands.

Answer 5

Traditionally in the UK women did not shake hands - its a male gesture originally and apparently originates from showing that you are not concealing weapons (don't know if this is accurate). Women only really started shaking hands when they started working in positions of authority. I am not a muslim and I also don't feel comfortable shaking hands although when I have had jobs where it was required I have done so.

Answer 6

in America we shake hands as a hello or if you are doing business as (makeing a deal) its a gesture of keeping your promise! Is it written in the Qur'an ( I hope I spelled it right) about woman and handshakes?? By the way,I dont shake many womans hand!! I just say "Hello"

Answer 7

Some people have nice answers here, they already gave them out, i dont need to speak. I do, on the ohther hand, shake hands with women. It doesnt matter, usually they are my female friends. I hug them also. They are muslims mostly.

Answer 8

Usually I don't shake hands with women in general and Muslimahs in specific. I do that for two reasons:
1- I am ordered by religion not to touch a foreign woman
2- I respect the woman as she might not want me to shake hands with her and I save myself from the embarrassment if she would not shake hands back.
So, in total, better not to do it.

Answer 9

well I try to not shake hands with women but I think there is no problem If they were wearing gloves because as you know ( eza lams geld el rajol geld emra2ah haydee3 wadoo)
ana 3adatan ba2ool el salamo 3alaikom men b3eed w ba23ood ma3 el regalah

Answer 10

It is unacceptable to touch anothersex who is not in your family, i.e. Aunt, Uncle, Nephew etc. The prophet Muhammed SAW said: " When you touch another female out of your family, it is equal to stabbing an iron rod through your head."
I made this easy language, it was a very long passage.
This is probably the punishment, in hellfire.
Asalamu Alaykum, sister.

Answer 11

I prefer not shaking hands with men and avoid it all possible costs.

Shaking hands is just a way of greeting people, so why not say 'Hello' politely, and give a warm smile....?