We are not sure what to give as a gift because of her weird invitation.....We are being asked to pay 75$ each for the dinner (that includes two glasses of wine each)....ive never heard of asking your invitees to pay for their own meal...so what would be an appropriate gift?
2007-08-14 14:32:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Oh no... no gift... if you had to pay to go..NO GIFT
2007-08-14 14:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Affordable wedding gift and I wouldn't go to the reception. If the friendship is important, then go to the wedding, I assume there isn't a cover charge at the door for that. This is one of the most tacky things I've ever heard. I owned a wedding chapel in California for ten year, we had over 15,000 wedding during that time. So I DO have some experience in the etiquette of weddings.
These people are bums trying to put on the front of kings. BEWARE!!!
2007-08-14 22:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is the ultimate of rudeness. They are not asking you to be their guest. They are not hosting their wedding. You are within your rights, per etiquette, if you choose to not attend.
Should you choose to attend, you do not have to provide them with a gift. A card is all that is called for. If you feel you MUST give them a gift, a $20 bill in the card is all that you should do.
2007-08-15 02:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying for your own dinner? How cheap is that?! Well if you insist on going and insist on getting a gift for them. Try something like a nice picture frame for their wedding photos. I went to a wedding and gave them just a picture frame from walmart, It looked more expensive then the $15 I spent on it.
2007-08-14 21:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by S S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are they taking Mastercard or PayPal? I can't believe couples are resorting to charging admission in order to have a gala wedding. I certainly wouldn't attend a reception where I had to pay $150 to get in the door.
Attend the wedding ceremony, if you want. Send a gift you can afford, if you want. Skip the reception, if only to send a message that charging admission to a wedding reception is the height of tacky.
2007-08-14 23:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Julie Q 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not an invitation, it's an INVOICE!!!!
That is the most rediculous thing I've ever heard!
An appropriate gift? Your total silence... do not RSVP... do not attend... do not send any card. You have just lost your "good" friends... who weren't really your "good" friends if they came up with INVOICING their wedding! For heaven's sake, who paid for the wedding cake... the flowers... the videographer... the minister... the DRESS... etc etc etc!!!
Please pardon my overuse of the exclamation mark... but the tone of my voice went up an octave when I read your question, and the exclamation marks just came out without thinking!!!
2007-08-14 22:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, my friend is getting married in 3 weeks. I've known for a while that the cost of each "plate" is $40 dollars. She has never asked me for that amount, but its not an unreasonable amount for a gift to cost.
If the couple has been together, and living together for awhile, how many toasters do they need? Money is much appreciated because they do have to pay for the wedding.
If you'd prefer not money, give them something else.
the bride was probably not intentionally being rude, shes probably over stressed, think "bridezilla". don't hold it against the couple.
2007-08-16 01:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by smileyd 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with the second answer... if anyone asked me to PAY to attend their wedding, I would decline the invitation. Seems like a really rude and tacky event.
2007-08-14 21:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Violet 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would not go, I have never heard of paying when you are invited to a wedding dinner.
2007-08-14 21:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tea C 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
A small gift would be appropriate, something for their new home, kitchen items or such. As for having to fork out 75$ for the reception, don't think to badly of the couple (or whomever is funding this wedding) for charging. Weddings these days are beyond most peoples budgets, at least the ones that are done all fancy, in a church, and have a separate place for the reception. If they are charging for a really, I mean REALLY good spread of food to serve it should be worth it. Enjoy the ceremony and following gaiety!
2007-08-14 21:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by poohbear_daboy 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
What the heck!! Don't give them any gift if they charge you for having the dinner!!!! In fact, why even bother to go at all!
2007-08-14 21:42:56 · answer #11 · answered by redsox12 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋