I don't feel the same way I used to about my boyfriend. Everything was fine until we started going out. Now when he gets around his friends he always talks about the girls he used to mess around with. He has been with probably at least 15 or more people. I have been with 1 (him). I won't cheat on him, but am I wrong for wanting to sleep other people?
2007-08-14 13:26:56 · 10 answers · asked by chosen one 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he does this while I'm around.
2007-08-14 13:47:40 · update #1
Yes he does like I'm not in the same room with him! Thanks for your all of your help.
2007-08-14 13:48:43 · update #2
What a jerk!! He's disrespecting you and you don't have to take that. If he's going to talk about that stuff he should atleast have the desency to do it when you're not around. Talk to him and if that don't work, then bye bye birdie. You're not wrong in wanting to sleep with another guy, you're curious.
2007-08-14 13:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by chula 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual attraction is a chemical reaction. When you first get together with someone, you are picking up on pheromones that you sense with your nose, but can't smell. And, the fact that it's a new pheromone stimulation makes you excited to be with that person.
After a while, your senses get used to that pheromone stimulation and they crave something different. That's why you can be in a relationship with someone and for some reason seem to be getting tired of being with them, while so many other people seem to be turning you on.
The sense of smell is the most basic sense in humans. This pheromone activity is ingrained in our brains, so we have the tendency to want mutliple sex partners, which facilitates procreation - and, therefore, survival - of the species.
My point is that it's not that you're doing anything wrong. It's in the nature of human beings to desire to sleep with other people. And, it's not his fault the way he's being. Although, as civilized beings, we find it more virtuous and desireable to only "mate" with one partner.
So, what do you do?
Bring it up to him sometime. If you have feelings of envy because he got to sleep around and you didn't, tell him that. Not that you plan on doing anything about it. It's just that you feel kind of cheap and rejected when he talks like that. Don't fault him for being that way. Just ask if he would not talk about his old "conquests" around you.
2007-08-14 20:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Paul in San Diego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , u r not wrong. Whats the big deal of how many people he has slept with. Most of my x's have slept with more than me, but I have more respect for myself not to sleep with other men. Dont sleep with other men just because his number is higher than yours, and plus , it shows that you respect yourself, and thats great. And by the way, does he tall about other girls when u r around?, and if he does, dump him. He has no respect for u or himself. Good Luck!!!
2007-08-14 20:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same with my first b/f. he was my only at the time, and i was his 3rd. I cheated on him until we were "even" and it wasnt good. chances are he is just showing off around his guys, but it is understandable to feel like that. if he is not treating you right or making you feel "less" of a woman than his "others" then drop him...cuz he sounds cocky! dont cheat tho...it might feel good at the time, but just break it off and do what you need to do else where.
2007-08-14 20:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by lil_jade_81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your just wanting to sleep with other people,cause of his sayings about other women. dont do that its not what you really want or youd had done it a long time ago.maybe thats his way of feeling more of a man , though its very little of him. seems like your on the right track,maybe you two need space sense he keeps bringing up o;d girls is he trouhg plying the feild?
2007-08-14 20:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by so curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationship respect each other. men brags about their conquest, are they missing something in life, not fullfilled..young or old, at times we want variety or satisfaction that we cannot find at the present moment. listen to you heart. or be safe when fooling around. remember unconditional love matters, everything else is an illusion.
2007-08-14 20:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by connie d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him if i was u thats just wrong tell him he needs to get a grip
2007-08-14 20:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by blondy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him..he sounds like a jerk and if you want other men then i would dump him for sure!
2007-08-14 20:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by peanutpieashley214 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably you should talk to him more
2007-08-14 20:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you :S?
2007-08-14 20:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by dudddyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋