My boyfriend has a very extreme personality, when he's good, he is so nice and caring. But when he's bad, he is so terrible, he is the devil himself. I tried to leave him, but for some reason, I can't bring myself to do so, no matter how bad he treats me.
2007-08-14 13:00:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kizzes - Maybe it's you that's so ulgy that you have to remind yourself to THINK like you're a princess by putting it on your profile.
2007-08-14 13:11:11 · update #1
Bill S.
sure, just show me the way to find my knight in shinning armor.....
2007-08-14 13:48:28 · update #2
It's easy to get caught up in a situation like this because you love them and they get you to stick around with the being nice part. It's a tough situation to be in. You didn't say what the bad things he does, if it's abuse or cheating, you should leave. Otherwise weigh the pros and the cons. Think about why you are really with him and what you really love about him. Think about if you have a real future together. It might take you a while to figure all that out, it'll take a lot of thought. And his behavior is just stringing you along.
2007-08-14 13:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by jmel_1979 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. It will be hard, but you will be glad you did later. This also does not mean you won't get back together later. read the book Captivating all the way through. After you read that book, read Wild at Heart (Guys version). Then you will have a better understanding of knight in shining armor.
2007-08-15 04:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Im a guy and I help with a lot of my friends problems but I must say everybody has a good and bad side I mean if this is something u see often u should talk to someone about finding another guy and leaving him.
2007-08-14 13:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by ROCK TILL YOU DIE! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have talked to him and he knows that you feel hurt but doesn't care, then you have to find someway to get out of the relationship. It could turn into more and if the relationship gets very serious it would be harder then ever to leave. Also, the deeper the relationship, the worse his bad side could come out and you could get hurt. Don't stay with this guy, as easier said then done that is. You need to bring yourself to get out, but have friends and support behind you to back you up and help you after.
2007-08-14 13:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by hope. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to sit yourself down and write down what you want from him, and what you want out of your relationship. This will help get you mind cleared and know what you want. Then you have to sit him down and tell him that. If it's hard write him a letter. Tell him that even thought you love him so much. It's not fair what he is doing to you, to tell you that if you don't make him happy to let you know, that you love him with all your heart and the last thing you want is for him not to be happy, even if it means not being with you. That if he want to leave your not going to stop him, no matter how much it's going to hurt you, and if the time you guys been toguether is not worth saving, you don't know what is. That you need him to respect your feelings, to think next time before he act.
-You need to talk though, don't scream, and respect your selft. Because if their is no respect in a relationship, there's nothing
2007-08-14 13:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many women who have this same problem. Search google for "women addicted to abusive men".
Typically, women in this situation have a very low self-esteem. Typically, these women feel unworthy of a better relationship, or somehow feel they did something wrong and deserve to be punished.
Your situation may be different, but I'm just saying what the typical case is.
2007-08-14 13:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Alice Lockwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's showing you his bad side now, it's going to get a whole lot worse later on. You've tried to leave him, well you need to try harder. One day he's going to put you in hospital, and I don't mean to have babies. You have the right to be safe and loved. If a guy truly loves you he will never do bad things to you. Not ever. I can only assume he doesn't love you, he loves himself and is only using you for his own self-gratification.
Honey I know how hard it is. This happened to my daughter and it took a lot of effort for her to get the courage to get rid of him. She still doesn't have another bf, but she's a whole lot happier now he's out of her life.
2007-08-14 14:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by dweebken 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We are always attracted to the "bad boys". Be careful with this one, girl. Don't end up another battered girlfriend STATISTIC.
Know that you deserve to be treated well and respected and revered. Try not to let this guy destroy your self confidence and esteem. These kind thrive on it in order to make themselves feel better.
See the light before you see "The Light".
2007-08-14 14:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by goodcook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself enough to realize you can do better. It might be hard without him at first but eventually you'll find someone new who you can be happy with all the time and treats you the way every girl deserves.
2007-08-14 13:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you asked this question means that you need to leave him. Get him in a good mood, tell him your feelings, and do it somewhere public. If he blows up, he can make an *** of himself and lose his GF at the same time. Guys like that don't deserve GF's anyway.
2007-08-14 13:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by tigerslam 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋